can't get it up with real live women

bungle · Guest

i'm a bloke who simply can't get it up with real live women. i can masturbate anyway, have any women here experienced anything similar? any possible solutions to this problem?

Timmy · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 3:09 am Post subject:

lol i'm no woman, but i can guess that your so anxious your forgetting to send the blood from the brain to the penis. calm down, flex it up, and give her a go! hell, if it helps, fantasize about something else, seems that it's worked for you up to that point. Any foreplay there? too much, too little? perhaps you just don't become arroused as quickly as you want to and it's stopping all processes. someone else help him out, i'm running out of things to say!

Guest · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 3:15 am Post subject:

The problem is simple, but the solution is not. Erections are an "automatic", non-conscious response to sexual arousal, but if you become self-conscious of your state of arousal you are not aroused. This catch-22 situation, once it starts, is hard to stop. Sex therapists specialize in treating this and (I assume) they are effective (or how else could they stay in business?).

Guest · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 10:57 am Post subject:

Teppic · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 12:37 pm Post subject:

That ^^^ sounds about right to start with. I have had similar problems and know what you mean,, but I find it varys from day to day. I think probably just try and relax into it. Best of luck Wink

enigma · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 4:22 pm Post subject:

Perhaps you could try leaving the porn alone for a while? Porn can dull the senses after a time.

Teppic · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 6:29 pm Post subject:

Actually that would probably work... Enfact I'm going to try it Rolling Eyes

Stephen · Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 8:51 pm Post subject:

Or u cud watch porn while having some fun with her. If it doesnt bother her!