Tolerating Spouse's Celibacy

[lossy]

This is a two part question. First: How long do you reasonably tolerate your spouses choice of celibacy? And second: what do you do while you're tolerating it?
My wife and I have been together over ten years. She used to be an animal in bed. In the past three years, outside forces have overwhelmed her and killed her libido. It's not physical. The doctor's all say she's in great physical shape. It's stress. I run my entire household and I work. She works and goes to school. We work as a team. The issue of sex is something we discuss and she talks about not being capable of giving sex or enjoying it and expects that I will accept this.We have no kids. Late 30's. We've discussed this and she says she just doesn't have the energy or the mood. I still love her and she still loves me. Within that love she wants me to just be accepting of it and I'm trying. The last time we had any physical contact was 4.5 months ago and that was her giving me a handjob. No intercourse. I can't reduce the stress in her life and I can't help but feel angry and resentful that we're not having sex. I love my wife. She has said openly that she doesn't have any sex drive. It's all just burned out by the demands from everything else. What am I supposed to do? I want my marriage back. Please help me.

[Kitkat]

Get rid of her and get someone who will!!!!! (that is what I did) There are plenty of women out there who are only too willing to have sex, go find yourself one dude.

[hb]

Maybe she needs to figure out what life is about..

it sounds to me like she's just existing & not living ( & by this, I don't mean that you have to be sexual to 'live' life BTW)

You need to identify the things that cause the stress and eliminate them. Change jobs, move to a smaller house or to a cheaper part of the place where you live - whatever. It can't be good for you, her or your kids if she is so stressed & tires that she is like this..

...failin gthis ask her to hook you up with one of her friends...(just kidding!)