Help Mum hates my BF

[Horizon]

I'm bringing my H2B home for the 1st time. We have decided to get married and I plan to tell my parents when we visit them for Easter. The problem is that my mum has already formed a firm opinion about my bf without having met him- she hates him.

Her reason for hating him is:
He is a musician and therefore will not have earning potential. She told me that she has always dreamed of me living like a princess and she wants me to marry a City Wizz with supreme education. She said, she spent 1000s of pound for my education and raised me for the "good life" I date a penniless bum?"

Iattended public school, went to boarding school, finishing college. I am now studying to be a lawyer. I know it sounds bad but I am not a spoiled brat and am not materialistic.

I tried to convince her that he is an awesome person. When I told her how smart he is, he reads my textbooks for fun, she said, it's not the kind of smart that counts! I told her how understanding, accomodating and loving he is, she says, he has to be, I'm too good for him and he knows it."

I don't know what to do. It breaks my heart to hear these things but I also know that she means well. She said that she doesn't want me to worry about basic necessities in life and she wants me to be able to afford things I want such as a house, car, holidays, etc.

Am I being naive? is she right? I love this guy and he is everything I ever wanted in a man. The only flaw is (if it is a flaw), he doesn't have a real job besides part time tutoring and he doesn't know what to do in terms of making money.

Please help. Both perspectives of parents and daughters would be much appreciated.

[Harry]

I think your mum is being a little old fashioned. She see's you at home with your husband out earning enough for both of you. Not necessarily how things are now. It seems that you are going to be well able to support the family, and because of the way lawyers get paid you should be earning serious money in about 5 years time. Go with your heart and try to explain to your mum that marriage is a partnership where each brings the things that they can contribute to the party and your h2b is bringing lots.

[KelB]

I don't in anyway plan to marry anytime soon but it sounds like your mum is similar to my mum.....

Apart from the fact you had a private education.....

My bf doesn't earn a great deal of money working where he works ( his dad owns his own business and plans to leave this to him) He is the most generous,caring,polite,gorgeous guy I have ever met....He treats me like an princess and is nothing but fantastic to me.

He is polite when he comes around to see me....and he has never had a bad or hurtful word to say about anyone...
For some reason my mum doesn't like him. As much as I'd love her to see him for the fantastic guy he is she doesn't but I'm in love and she has to come to terms with that.....sometimes although they like to think it parents arn't right...

Your happy...in love...and going to get married she will have to realise this,it's your happiness that counts!