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Verve
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| Oh the next time she thinks about throwing away someones clothes, tell her she can throw away anything in her closet that she has PAID for. |
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| Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 1:44 pm Post subject: |
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Drinker - piss off you moron.
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Big Balls
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 8:08 pm Post subject: |
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| With regard the issue of smacking her own daughter, thats up to her, i dont agree with smacking children, and would never raise a hand to my own. If someone, regardless of who i.e new partner or relative or friend, smacked my kids, i'd smack them right back. |
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noodles
FemaleFirst Grand Master (1000+ Posts)
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| Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 4:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Big Balls wrote: |
| With regard the issue of smacking her own daughter, thats up to her, i dont agree with smacking children, and would never raise a hand to my own. If someone, regardless of who i.e new partner or relative or friend, smacked my kids, i'd smack them right back. |
Yep - then show them a very open front door. |
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| Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 4:29 pm Post subject: |
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| noodles wrote: |
| Big Balls wrote: |
| With regard the issue of smacking her own daughter, thats up to her, i dont agree with smacking children, and would never raise a hand to my own. If someone, regardless of who i.e new partner or relative or friend, smacked my kids, i'd smack them right back. |
Yep - then show them a very open front door. |
Then again - I suppose she's only behaving how shes been allowed to - maybe harsh words are needed all round. |
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Mandy_38
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| Posted: Mon May 19, 2008 8:19 pm Post subject: Re: New partner is strict on my daughter |
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WOnder if anyone can advise me.
I met a wonderful woman 12 months ago who has a 12 year old daughter from a previous relationship. I too have a 10 year daugheter who lives full time with me. No problems there, we all get on fine.
Last month we all moved in together. Her daughter is what I would say a girly girl. Her mother dresses her in skirts or dresses. My daughter is a bit on the tomboy side.
So here is the problem. My new partner now gets my daughter to wear a skirt most of the time and has thrown out most of her trousers. My daughter is quite docile and rarely complains, but I can see she isn't happy about wear a skirt or having her in bunchies.
The other thing is I allowed my daughter to wear tights to school. She has now banned her from wearing tights sayings she is too young and shes now goes to school in knee socks like her daughter. I suppose she is trying to get everything equal but should I say anything?
She also does smack her own daughter if she is naughty, (which is rare). Do you think she would apply the discipline to my daughter.
Please advise as I don't want to rock the boat with my new partner. |
I think 10 is far too young to wear tights for school and socks are far more appropriate at that age. How would the 12 year old feel having to wear knee socks when a girl two years her junior is allowed tights. It would be humiliating. If they were several years older then they could both wear tights for school. I would go along with your partner's wishes.
As to smacking that's a different matter. This lady is entitled to smack her own daughter but should not smack yours unless you give her permission. You should discuss this with your partner and agree some ground rules including at what age the girls should be allowed tights instead of socks and whether they should both always wear dresses and skirts and not trousers.
I can see this lady's problem. She wants to bring up her daughter in a certain way and yet not let her child think her younger "sister" is being allowed more grown up privileges. Tricky. But sensible discussion should resolve matters. |
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Rex46
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 12:53 pm Post subject: The new mother |
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I think your partner is doing the right thing and is trying to harmonise her treatment of the two girls. I agree with the previous correspondent and would say that 10 is far far too young for a girl to wear tights. She should be in white socks and both girls should wear them for several more years.
I agree with reasonable corporal punishment and your partner does have a right to smack your daughter as she does her own PROVIDED you are in agreement. It would be tough on the older girl if she was smacked but her younger "sister" was not. The two girls should be treated the same. |
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Laura_Field_35
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 3:42 pm Post subject: Re: The new mother |
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| Rex46 wrote: |
I think your partner is doing the right thing and is trying to harmonise her treatment of the two girls. I agree with the previous correspondent and would say that 10 is far far too young for a girl to wear tights. She should be in white socks and both girls should wear them for several more years.
I agree with reasonable corporal punishment and your partner does have a right to smack your daughter as she does her own PROVIDED you are in agreement. It would be tough on the older girl if she was smacked but her younger "sister" was not. The two girls should be treated the same. |
Mixed reactions here. As a mother I can't really see the problem with wearing tights other than the cost. My dd is 10 and is not asking to wear tights. I can't really see a problem.
As for smacking, depends. Some people go way over the top. If its just a slap on the legs in certain situations I suppose it is okay. I have smacked my dd occassionally but it is rare. I agree that both girls should be treated the same but thick school tights - well whats the problem? |
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| Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 4:32 pm Post subject: Re: The new mother |
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| Laura_Field_35 wrote: |
| Rex46 wrote: |
I think your partner is doing the right thing and is trying to harmonise her treatment of the two girls. I agree with the previous correspondent and would say that 10 is far far too young for a girl to wear tights. She should be in white socks and both girls should wear them for several more years.
I agree with reasonable corporal punishment and your partner does have a right to smack your daughter as she does her own PROVIDED you are in agreement. It would be tough on the older girl if she was smacked but her younger "sister" was not. The two girls should be treated the same. |
Mixed reactions here. As a mother I can't really see the problem with wearing tights other than the cost. My dd is 10 and is not asking to wear tights. I can't really see a problem.
As for smacking, depends. Some people go way over the top. If its just a slap on the legs in certain situations I suppose it is okay. I have smacked my dd occassionally but it is rare. I agree that both girls should be treated the same but thick school tights - well whats the problem? |
And how do you harmonise 2 totally different people - doh. Just cause they're girls doenst mean they're gonna feel the same about everything and have the same identity. Kids should be brought up to harnesses there differences as well as similarities - thats what makes us who we are! |
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Guest-at-1pm
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| Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 11:54 am Post subject: Treat them the same |
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| These two girls should be treated the same as they are close in age and still kids. Simple as that. |
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