his ex was gorgeous

col · Guest

Thought I'd write for some advice. I've been with my b/f for almost two years, and I love him to death. However, our sex life is less than spectacular. I really think it is because of my insecurity... his ex girlfriend (who also happened to be his first love) was gorgeous, and I feel like I cannot live up to her in such a way. He tells me I'm beautiful and he tries to make love to me constantly, and I feel so bad that I'm letting this bother me since it makes me hesitate to have sex. He's also told me that their relationship was nothing like what we have, but I just can't stop obsessing over her. In my previous relationships, I took pride in my sexual prowess, but in both those relationships my b/fs were virgins and I was their "first". Any advice as to how I can regain my sexual confidence? I really want to be able to please him more. Thanks so much.

Kayla · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 17 Nov 2004 Posts: 16

Be bold! Try doing something surprising for him...take authority a bit. Do things like wearing a skirt and no undies and let him have an "accidental" peek at it. Or try giving him blowjobs when he least expects it...it'll make him think "Wow she really wants me!" and it'll turn him on and make you feel like your confident and in control. Do sexy things to initiate sex...lol...i'm having a bit of triouble explaining...sorry

lil*minx · Posted: Mon Dec 27, 2004 7:12 pm Post subject:

Don't let someone that isn't even in your life ruin your relationship. You need to just trust that he loves you and wants to be with you. Obviously you are beautiful to him. Be proud of who you are and what you have to offer him.