What?! I stumbled across this thread while searching for something else. If some old gossipy busybody said that to me, I'd likely tell her "What are you, the fashion police? Go mind your own business!!" People sure are expert on how to live our lives, aren't they...

Whenever I hear the words "should" or "ought to" from someone, my mind goes on red-flag alert. AA'ers tell each other "don't 'should' on yourself"; I don't let other people 'should' all over me, either. Me, I know that there are
consequences to everything we do or don't do; otherwise, I have no idea what anyone
"should" do. ...or, since it was in church, maybe a few quotes from what Jesus had to say about casting judgment on people (he was really
rough about it) might've had a salutary effect.
