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Fred75
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PostPosted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 2:49 pm    Post subject: 1. Do You Poison Your Son’s Mind Against His Father Reply with quote

1. Do You Poison Your Son’s Mind Against His Biological Father?
Some women knowingly and intentionally perform this evil scheme. Others do it unintentionally. While boys are young, this vengeful act seems harmless, but as they grow older, they develop bitterness against their fathers. This root of bitterness, (See Hebrews 12:15 and Romans 3:14) will manifest itself in other areas of these boy’s lives. They play out their parental distress by becoming overtly rebellious, joining gangs, committing crimes and engaging in other self-destructive activities such as domestic violence and homosexuality.
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PostPosted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 4:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There are mother's that do this to their daughters too.

It's completely non-productive and it is harmful to both, sons and daughters. It's very harmful to the self-esteem of the child later in life.
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I think it's harmful to speak hate and judgement in front of children...period. They should not be influence by resentments from a parent. I see this as wrong and again...harmful and unhealthy.
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PostPosted: Fri Dec 14, 2007 6:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

+1 to Zia, also there are fathers who poison their childrens minds towards their mothers. Its not really a case of gender its more just sad and pathetic people who want to control their kids
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PostPosted: Fri Dec 14, 2007 9:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

x-xcutiex-x wrote:
+1 to Zia, also there are fathers who poison their childrens minds towards their mothers. Its not really a case of gender its more just sad and pathetic people who want to control their kids


What you fail to understand though is that, typically, the reason the father IS poisoning also is because the mother failed to pick a good man to father her children.

Men and women are not equal.
Women have the children and end up keeping them.
YOU have a bigger responsibility to avoid those type of men.

Am I right?
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 17, 2007 11:22 am    Post subject: Re: 1. Do You Poison Your Son’s Mind Against His Father Reply with quote

Fred75 wrote:
1. Do You Poison Your Son’s Mind Against His Biological Father?
Some women knowingly and intentionally perform this evil scheme. Others do it unintentionally. While boys are young, this vengeful act seems harmless, but as they grow older, they develop bitterness against their fathers. This root of bitterness, (See Hebrews 12:15 and Romans 3:14) will manifest itself in other areas of these boy’s lives. They play out their parental distress by becoming overtly rebellious, joining gangs, committing crimes and engaging in other self-destructive activities such as domestic violence and homosexuality.

No, my mind is not poisoned.
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PostPosted: Sat Dec 22, 2007 6:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

My boyfriend has a 13 year old son who has to listen to a load of bullshit about his Dad from his mum. My bf wont tell him the truth about the break up because he doesnt think he is old enough to understand and he doesnt want to get into a tit for tat thing with his ex. But her reasoning for basically being a nasty bitch is because she was the one who caused the break up because he came home early from work one day and found her in bed with the young lad from across the street! He left and then went back after a few weeks cos she asked him to and told him it wouldnt happen again and he knew that she wouldnt let him see his son if he didnt. He was there for a few months and then came home to the same scenario! So he left and never went back. He is not a total fool! He didnt see his son for a while who was only a baby at the time. He sees him now thru his gran who has him at the weekends but his mum is really poisoning him against his Dad by saying that he was the one who walked out on him cos he didnt want him and things like that. He is planning to have a chat with him in a few years and sit him down and explain but it does make things difficult and sometimes his son comes out with things that really hurt him but he has to keep quiet. Very awkward!
My eldest son, who is 18, had a useless father but I never used to slag him off in front of him. He has since found out in the last few years what an arse he is! But it is better if they find out for themselves. Poisoning kids minds is wrong and people really should think twice cos they have no idea what damage they are doing. The kids will find out the truth eventually and its better that way.
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PostPosted: Wed Jan 02, 2008 10:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Polgara69 wrote:
My boyfriend has a 13 year old son who has to listen to a load of bullshit about his Dad from his mum. My bf wont tell him the truth about the break up because he doesnt think he is old enough to understand and he doesnt want to get into a tit for tat thing with his ex. But her reasoning for basically being a nasty bitch is because she was the one who caused the break up because he came home early from work one day and found her in bed with the young lad from across the street! He left and then went back after a few weeks cos she asked him to and told him it wouldnt happen again and he knew that she wouldnt let him see his son if he didnt. He was there for a few months and then came home to the same scenario! So he left and never went back. He is not a total fool! He didnt see his son for a while who was only a baby at the time. He sees him now thru his gran who has him at the weekends but his mum is really poisoning him against his Dad by saying that he was the one who walked out on him cos he didnt want him and things like that. He is planning to have a chat with him in a few years and sit him down and explain but it does make things difficult and sometimes his son comes out with things that really hurt him but he has to keep quiet. Very awkward!
My eldest son, who is 18, had a useless father but I never used to slag him off in front of him. He has since found out in the last few years what an arse he is! But it is better if they find out for themselves. Poisoning kids minds is wrong and people really should think twice cos they have no idea what damage they are doing. The kids will find out the truth eventually and its better that way.


That's why breaking up/divorce is a bad idea.
It removes you from the house so you have little influence compared to if you were in the house together.
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PostPosted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 11:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

So you think staying with someone who causes you untold misery is better for the child than splitting up? Children watching their parents rowing and constantly sniping each other are going to grow up with no problems whatsoever? What are you on? The point of this discussion is about poisoning their minds against their fathers. Some mothers do, like my boyfriends ex does, and some, like me, dont cos I know its wrong. My son would not be the stable young man that I am so proud of if he had to watch me and his father having a go at each other every day. But also he would be different if I was constantly slagging him off too. My boyfriends son on the other hand is getting damaged by his mum which is wrong but my boyfriend and his ex staying together for his sake wouldnt have worked either and quite possibly could have caused him a lot more damage.
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 9:04 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I went through a divorce at the time I had a young son. It wasn't a very friendly divorce but credit to my ex she was totally supportive of my continued relationship with my son. I will always admire her for the way she put personal issues aside for his benefit. Mind you a healthy pay off might just have contributed to that!
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Polgara69 wrote:
So you think staying with someone who causes you untold misery is better for the child than splitting up? Children watching their parents rowing and constantly sniping each other are going to grow up with no problems whatsoever? What are you on? The point of this discussion is about poisoning their minds against their fathers. Some mothers do, like my boyfriends ex does, and some, like me, dont cos I know its wrong. My son would not be the stable young man that I am so proud of if he had to watch me and his father having a go at each other every day. But also he would be different if I was constantly slagging him off too. My boyfriends son on the other hand is getting damaged by his mum which is wrong but my boyfriend and his ex staying together for his sake wouldnt have worked either and quite possibly could have caused him a lot more damage.


And you know what... your BF has no control over his ex and her influence on the child like he would have under the same roof... now does he?

You lose a lot of control moving out.
As you can see... there is still no civility!
The child is now her pawn!

Then theres the pain the children have when they see you made them second place to your love life by getting new lovers.

Why don't you understand your children are not puppies and have feelings.
Why do you not understand that children cannot articulate their pain and hurt like adults to make you understand?
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Treacle wrote:
I went through a divorce at the time I had a young son. It wasn't a very friendly divorce but credit to my ex she was totally supportive of my continued relationship with my son. I will always admire her for the way she put personal issues aside for his benefit. Mind you a healthy pay off might just have contributed to that!


Young son.
Divorce.

What made you have a child at a point in your life when the S*** was about to hit the fan?

Why would you intentionally bring a third party into the situation so his/her life could be shattered?
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 1:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Because Fred when my son was conceived I didn't know the sh** was about to hit the fan. If you can read the future you are a lucky boy. What happened in your childhood to make you such a patronising git?
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Treacle wrote:
Because Fred when my son was conceived I didn't know the sh** was about to hit the fan. If you can read the future you are a lucky boy. What happened in your childhood to make you such a patronising git?


What S*** was that that others can learn from and not repeat?
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

How about wife asking for a divorce type of sh**? Not sure any posters can learn a lesson from that.

Are you going to answer my question? I think it might be a useful insight as to why your posts are so full of patronising homophobic drivel.
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PostPosted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 3:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Treacle wrote:
How about wife asking for a divorce type of sh**? Not sure any posters can learn a lesson from that.

Are you going to answer my question? I think it might be a useful insight as to why your posts are so full of patronising homophobic drivel.


Because raising MEN is the best way to reduce the number of broken homes.

Raising emasculated males that think they are women only creates more liberals that care more about themselves than the children they have.
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