I am attracted to my flatmate!

Cambridge · Posted: Fri Mar 21, 2008 2:15 am Post subject:

Beebee, you’re avoiding the essential question. Is he hetero? C’mon, this is what you are asking throughout your posts. Look at the evidence: you approach him and he says no…ok, so maybe he is sensitive. He has a gf…that’s not an euphemism for a guy is it? I mean, let’s talk plain English…he tells you no, he's into hetero women…don’t hang yourself out for further humiliation. Find yourself a real gay guy and make that work. Ther's always someone for you. Don’t try to make something work that is not there. Good luck and keep us posted; we care.

beebee79 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 12

It was a Saturday night, two weeks ago, when I went back home 3 o'clock in the morning feeling tipsy. He had arrived home few min before and was up, drinking whiskey. We chatted and laughed about our night out, offered me to drink as well. We were getting close and then all of a sudden he got up and said goodnight. As he was about to open his bedroom door, I stopped him and said "no, don't go to sleep, let's finish our whiskey" and just stood there looking at eachother when he said "come here" and then it happened! We made pasionate love, it was magic, everything. The next day however, he woke up feeling guilty, and said that it was a mistake and shouldnt happen again. I went up to him and said I can't promise you that, and took of my shirt... we did it again. Then he asked me to promis him that I wouldn't do that again. I didn't.

I really, really like him and loved making love to him. I am afraid the next time I'll make a move, he might ask me to leave the flat.
This weekend, both of our partners are coming to visit. I have no feelings for my boyfriend anymore. It will be an awkward weekend.

coolman · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 6931

Sorry, but what you are saying is that you had sex with him twice. Once he was drunk and the other time you seduced him (if you don't think you seduced him the first time as well) . . . both times he said it was a mistake . . . figure it out.

Bouncy · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 12:18 am Post subject:

I hope it was worth it to you and you enjoyed yourself. Life's about to get a whole lot more miserable. Congrats.

Verve · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 3:00 am Post subject:

Oooooooo..... He played you like a violin. I beat you thought you were in control.... Laughing

So naive you are. Get ready for him to start treating you like sh*t the chase is over. I hope his sweet d*ck was worth it.

Cambridge · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 3:15 am Post subject:

Beebee, I know it’s tough being a gay guy. You have to overcome not only the ‘is he interested’ barrier, that we all have, but you have to overcome the ‘is he also into a gay' thing, that you must confront. I recognize your hesitancy.

But as much as you may have bedded him, he has given you every indication that he is not gay. I live in San Francisco. We see young gay men all the time…dealing with the confusion you are expressing. Don’t be one. Take the clue.

Bouncy · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 1:41 pm Post subject:

Beebee is male? Shocked

Not that it makes any difference to the situation, but I never took into consideration the gender of the OP could be male. Very Happy

beebee79 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 12

I am female and not gay!!!! And I LIKE (if I can't say love) this guy! And he is not treating me like S***! Nothing has changed, we still have dinner together, he still calls me up to check if I need anything from the super market, etc. I had my cousing over from abroad for a week, so I kept myself busy not thinking of him.

For the time being I won't do anything. Just be nice, like he is.

beebee79 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 12

By the way, thank you all

Verve · Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:29 pm Post subject:

beebee79 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 12

Its a pleasure to amuse you verve

Bouncy · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 11:58 am Post subject:

She's not the only one who finds it funny. Tragically funny.

Verve · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 2:05 pm Post subject:

BeeBee if you can bring it to a Tawny level...... please do so..... I like to be entertained.

http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/board/viewtopic.php?t=44790&highlight=

beebee79 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Feb 2008 Posts: 12

Is there anyone out there who could be a little more positive and/or less aggresive? Otherwise there is no point in being here.

Bouncy · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 2:12 pm Post subject:

Ah yes. That was fun. I do like to be entertained. Very Happy