Dealing with his mother

Guest · Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2005 9:50 am Post subject: Dealing with his mother

I'm having a hard time writing this post. I've never done anything like this before. I've been going through ALOT of firsts. I'm young (19) and have no Idea how to handle this:

I've been dating a guy for the past 6 months and we are very much into eachother. We spend every waking moment together, and he is my very best friend.

I was just introduced to his family, They're great. His father, brothers, cousins all accpeted me and treated me with great respect, but his mother really, truley would do anything possible to keep me away from him. She told him she doesn't want him seeing me because i'm "not the type of girl that belongs in their family". you see... Their family is very high up in social status.. his father is a famous singer, was in movies and what not. She doesn't like the fact that I don't have money, and that I don't have the "look" she had in mind for him (tall, blond hair, blue eyes). Since she told him this, he's been acting distant.

I'm very scared that he's going to let his mothers outlook on me tear us apart. (I understand that if he does let that happen, I could find someone who cares for me more). But my main question is this: Should I confront her? Change myself to make her happy? Stick it out and hope she gets used to me??

Please, any advice would be great!

magic_marsoupial · Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 5:23 pm Post subject:

sounds so familliar, sorry i cant really offer any advice, i'm stuck in the same situation and me and my partner have been together for 2 1/2 years! so if anyone has any advice for the both of us, it'd be great.

don't let her ruin your relationship!

magic_marsoupial · Posted: Thu Mar 17, 2005 5:25 pm Post subject:

whatever you do don't change you, you are beautiful she's the one with the problem not you and if your b/f can't stand up for you then he ain't worth the time. don't let her walk all over you just so you can stay in you're relationship!

P_1984d · Posted: Fri Mar 25, 2005 10:20 pm Post subject:

Dont let this get in the way of your love. If it's true love anyway you'll get through sh*t no matter what. Iam with my fiance 2 yrs now and his Mum still doesnt bother with me. The first night he brought me to his house, his Mum told him not to bring me back. It was all because we were different religions. Really pathetic especially since they sent him to an integrated school! Just forget her. At the end of the day it's just you and him. Not her! Three's a crowd anyway.

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Sat Mar 26, 2005 12:13 am Post subject:

Hey guest! I think every mans mum is afraid of another female taking their 'little boy' away from them. If he is the oldest then I suppose she will be worse.

However have you spoke to your partner about this at all, explained your fears of what might happen.