No sex with GF

Confused BF · Guest

Well gf and I are dating for a couple months now and still no sex. I did make the move a couple times but she didn't want to. I understand if she doesn't want if we just met and she is not ready yet. But the thing is that we were close friends since teens. We were never a couple but our friends looked at us as "being meant to be together." One other thing, we had sex before when we were teens. We were each others first. But being immature at the time we just wanted to experiment and never even considered dating. We live seperately but sometimes I would spend the night at her place and vice versa and she would never let me in the shower with her. The only time that I've seen her naked was the one time that we had sex. Does anyone have any opinion about this?

coolman · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 18 Apr 2008 Posts: 6971

perhaps she is worried that the sex would "get in the way" of your friendship, so she wants to take it slow. Sounds like a smart girl. Not good for you, though. Why don't you ask her?

noodles · Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 9:12 am Post subject:

Lucy2008 · Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 10:33 pm Post subject:

I Agree ^^ , I had a sexual relasionship with one of my old best mates and then it just wasnt the same, so dont rush things, wait untill the time is right and it will make things much better

tobinfest · Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 6:15 am Post subject:

Dialogue almost always helps between two people. It helps solidify as long as the two can intelligently discuss things such as this, without having differences widen the gap and invite other issues. Stay on topic and you will learn more by listening than by dominating the conversation. After all, you really want to know what she is thinking and feeling, rather than informing her what she should be thinking and feeling, which ends nowhere.
Discuss, listen and learn and don't push the issue. If it is something about you, adapt and adjust. If it is something about her, be sensitive and work to resolve, slowly over time, together. Good luck and be patient.