Was cutting contact with him the right option?

lilcherry · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 08 May 2007 Posts: 6

My ex broke up with me telling me it was because i wasn't grown up enough for the relationship and then said to my friend that i always complained and was jealous of his friends. This is not true. I've always made an effort asking how his friends were and yet he seemed to take this to mean i was jealous. I asked for his support on occassions when i was having a hard time which meant he had to give a few nights out with his friends up. But i improved and made an effort in the less few months.

When i told him about how i felt and what my friend had told me he justified it and told me to "call him when i grow up"

I feel hurt because we'd discussed the issue of him thinking i was jealous before and thought we'd sorted it. do u think i was right to cut him off? He said when he broke up with me he wanted to stay friends....

jinjin · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 84695

I think it would be best to cut him off completely. You have already made it obvious that you like him more than he likes you. If you do not make a clean break from him, you may leave yourself vulnerable to being manipulated by him. Instead of taking this risk, my preference is to remain distant from him until I know that I am over him and am comfortable with being on my own.

Verve · Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 11:46 pm Post subject:

I think I know what he means.... For you to call him in response to what your friend informed you was "childish". What you should have done was not verify what your friend told you. What an adult would have done knowing their spouse. Would have waited for him to call you and then when he made an attempt to converse stopped him straight in his tracks by saying "I don't speak to people who feel I'm immature, lose my number" If he denied then you converse about it. But if he didn’t you just hang up.

It's all about perception. People view things differently. Your wants and needs were childlike to him. To another man it might mean love. Be happy with the way things are. Know your worth. Don't consort with those who believe your inferior. It's a waste of your time and theirs. Best wishes.

lilcherry · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 08 May 2007 Posts: 6

Verve · Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 5:23 pm Post subject:

MaxtheGaul · Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 8:56 am Post subject:

He didn't treat her like sh*t, he's growing up too. It wasn't working for him, he's entitled to make whatever judgements about it he chooses. He made the sensible decision to end it. That's decent and grown up. If someone asked him why, then he's entitled to give and answer, it may not have been the best move, but hey he's young too.

Let's have less of this "he treated her like sh*t" when all the guy's done is moved on.

Verve

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Cambridge · Posted: Wed May 28, 2008 5:41 am Post subject:

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Cambridge · Posted: Thu May 29, 2008 3:25 am Post subject:

Gd for you, lilcherry. Good luck and God bless. Very Happy