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jenny247
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Location: Bristol
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 Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:51 am Post subject: The best way to say Piss off I am not interested? |
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Hi Everyone,
After a couple of dates, and you don't want to have a any sort of relationship, what is the best way to knock it on the head?
Is ignoring calls ok, how would that make you feel? should I ignore e-mails?
what about texts.
What is the best way to say, no thanks? |
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Ruth5
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Location: West Country
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:53 am Post subject: |
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| Tell him straight & get it over with. |
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coolman
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 11:55 am Post subject: |
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| ignoring calls sucks. Leaves the other person in limbo. Why not just admit that you didn't feel any chemistry? It is still too early in the relationship for any real bonds to have formed. . . |
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jenny247
FemaleFirst Newbie (20+ posts)
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Location: Bristol
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:14 pm Post subject: |
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| coolman wrote: |
| ignoring calls sucks. Leaves the other person in limbo. Why not just admit that you didn't feel any chemistry? It is still too early in the relationship for any real bonds to have formed. . . |
the problem is that there is often chemistry, but you are just not suited (cos hes a dick head) I always want to be honest, but I can't tell him he freaks me out! And it is just to early and there is no really need for an explanation.
Is it ok to just say "sorry I don't want to go out on a date again" that just seams lame..
I have been ignored, and I am fine with that. |
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jenny247
FemaleFirst Newbie (20+ posts)
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Location: Bristol
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Ruth5 wrote: |
| Tell him straight & get it over with. |
what would you say? what would be the line.. |
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coolman
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:17 pm Post subject: |
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| he doesn't have to know that you felt there was chemistry and I find this to be the best "general" out option in the beginning stages of a relationship. |
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jenny247
FemaleFirst Newbie (20+ posts)
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:32 pm Post subject: |
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| coolman wrote: |
| he doesn't have to know that you felt there was chemistry and I find this to be the best "general" out option in the beginning stages of a relationship. |
lol he felt it too, or he would not be on the case. He is a clever guy I would not want to insult him with a general option. This was said to a male mate of mine and it left him confused, and more hurt.
I would like to chat as mates, because we will bump into each other.
I don't want to tell the truth and I don't want to lie either, saying nothing is still looking like the best option.
could be thinking about this too much  |
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Fred75
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: |
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| coolman wrote: |
| ignoring calls sucks. Leaves the other person in limbo. Why not just admit that you didn't feel any chemistry? It is still too early in the relationship for any real bonds to have formed. . . |
This from a guy cheating on and lying to his wife! |
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coolman
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Fred75 wrote: |
| coolman wrote: |
| ignoring calls sucks. Leaves the other person in limbo. Why not just admit that you didn't feel any chemistry? It is still too early in the relationship for any real bonds to have formed. . . |
This from a guy cheating on and lying to his wife! |
from an insipid little man.
WOULD CHRIST BE THROWING STONES AT ME, FRED? YOU ARE NOT A CHRISTIAN, FRED! |
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tobinfest
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Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:47 pm Post subject: |
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| Ruth5 wrote: |
| Tell him straight & get it over with. |
I agree with Ruth. Honesty and frankness wins and gets it over. This isn't me that you are talking about, is it? If so, just take off your clothes and seal the deal!  |
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Fred75
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:49 pm Post subject: |
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| coolman wrote: |
| Fred75 wrote: |
| coolman wrote: |
| ignoring calls sucks. Leaves the other person in limbo. Why not just admit that you didn't feel any chemistry? It is still too early in the relationship for any real bonds to have formed. . . |
This from a guy cheating on and lying to his wife! |
from an insipid little man.
WOULD CHRIST BE THROWING STONES AT ME, FRED? YOU ARE NOT A CHRISTIAN, FRED! |
Shouldn't you be out shagging the HO in your office to further spit in your wife and children's face? |
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coolman
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 12:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Fred75 wrote: |
Shouldn't you be out shagging the HO in your office to further spit in your wife and children's face? |
Not until later tonight. |
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noodles
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 1:14 pm Post subject: |
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you dont have to lie or tell the whole truth.
'i dont want bad feeling (which actually you have no control over anyway, he'll react how he reacts) but i dont wanna see you anymore. i cant explain it any further other than to say i cant see any furture with this so im knocking it on the head now, im sorry' or words to that effect.
After only a few dates you dont actually owe him anything more. You dont owe him any less either - especially if you'll probably bump into him. Just tell him and get it over with. |
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jenny247
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 1:28 pm Post subject: |
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| After only a few dates you dont actually owe him anything more. You dont owe him any less either - especially if you'll probably bump into him. Just tell him and get it over with. |
Yeah true, I am being a wimp just wanted to check the consensuses of opinion before I jumped in. |
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noodles
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| Posted: Mon Jun 02, 2008 1:33 pm Post subject: |
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| jenny247 wrote: |
| noodles wrote: |
| After only a few dates you dont actually owe him anything more. You dont owe him any less either - especially if you'll probably bump into him. Just tell him and get it over with. |
Yeah true, I am being a wimp just wanted to check the consensuses of opinion before I jumped in. |
i know its not a pleasant thing to have to do is it (feel for ya). Now go jump  |
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