Is she hitting on me?

[Louise_Ash]

Since I am not Bi or a Lesbian, I was not sure where to place this question - so I thought I would start in here!

A new girl started at work in the spring this year and gradually she has become more involved in projects at work that involve myself. I've have been noticing that whilst the decision as to who works with who is not mine or hers but my boss, the new girl is actively asking to work with myself and my team.

Often our projects take us around various cities in the UK and during the summer Europe. Hotels, bars and restaurants all mean those people working get to know eachother better - good and bad!

The new girl is'nt annoying in a kind of 'stalking/following me' type way but I have noticed that she always compliments my appearance, copies my appearance, sits noticeably closer and almost always is more tactile than any other work colleague.

The girl is very attractive, she goes out of her way to tell me she is single, and frequently asks about my boyfriend.

Is she hitting on me? Or is she just over friendly?

Louise
xx

[jessp]

Are you older than her,it may be that she aspires to be like you,perhaps like a sister or friend she never had

[TwistedMind]

Well for me, maybe she sees you as a role model

[shrimper]

Since I am not Bi or a Lesbian, I was not sure where to place this question - so I thought I would start in here!

A new girl started at work in the spring this year and gradually she has become more involved in projects at work that involve myself. I've have been noticing that whilst the decision as to who works with who is not mine or hers but my boss, the new girl is actively asking to work with myself and my team.

Often our projects take us around various cities in the UK and during the summer Europe. Hotels, bars and restaurants all mean those people working get to know eachother better - good and bad!

The new girl is'nt annoying in a kind of 'stalking/following me' type way but I have noticed that she always compliments my appearance, copies my appearance, sits noticeably closer and almost always is more tactile than any other work colleague.

The girl is very attractive, she goes out of her way to tell me she is single, and frequently asks about my boyfriend.

Is she hitting on me? Or is she just over friendly?

Louise
xx

You should ask her if she is hitting on you. Are you prepared for a Yes answer?

[Rhiannon02]

I agree that it sounds like she just really admires you, looks up to you, sees you as a role model.

The only thing that would make me wonder is that she seems to sit closer to you than other people do, and is more "tactile" than other work colleagues. Would you say that she is only like this with you, or is she more touchy feely in general, with other people too?

[Louise_Ash]

I'm not really prepared for the yes answer. I am not sure what to think.

I think either way I would take it as a compliment.

I have not notice her tactile touches with anyone else.

She is 3yrs younger than myself. I am almost 30.

She is very capable in her job. Whilst I am her boss, I am also to a team of 6 and none of them are tactile as she is.

Louise

[SarahGirl]

Reading your description of her behaviour, especially the fact that she is touchy feely with you and no one else, it sounds to me likely that she has a 'thing' about you. She may or may not be 'coming on' to you, but it seems pretty likely that she fancies you.

You being her boss may mean that she feels she can't act on her feelings but can't help but show them in these little flirtations.

[Louise_Ash]

Friday night saw the end of a long project for my team in Germany.

We had returned to the UK last Wednesday and all involved went out on Friday night for drinks.

I sent an email throughout the office informing everyone of the plans - the first response was from this girl immediately accepting and asking what the dress code was and could she leave with me since she did not know the venue.

I'm of the opinion that she has a thing for me but am not sure how to tackle with subject without offending her or embarrasing me incase I am wrong.

Hmmm. Tricky.

Louise
xx

[UKGent]

As she's new, it could be said that she has kind of attached herself to you because she is nervous being the new employee. The majority of new employees all do the same thing, they try and find one person who they can befriend quickly which will help them in the coming weeks and months of the new job. Dont read too much into it at the moment, just go with the flo. The venue thing is very genuine, she's new, doesnt know the venue, as she's single she would be going alone and maybe that unsettles her, a single attractive female travelling alone to a night out with the works team.

Wait a few weeks until this girl has settled in and see if her actions/responses towards you change. If they havent then as her boss you should inform her that her behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and needs to stop.