I've been married for 3 months but I've been with my husband for 4 years. He is a drug addict, this is not something he lied about but it has lead to him lying to me about a lot of other things especially $$$.
I have been very supprotive through out as he did go through some terrible things in his earlier days I don't condone being an addict at all but I'm also open minded and non-judgmental.
I trust him with my life and he treats me really well in all oher aspects of our life but when it comes to money he's just a plain old liar.
Unfortunately money has a huge impact on your life so lying about it all the time is causing us huge problems.
He has been through several programmes to get clean and is at a stage where he has cut back considerably but I have had to change my pin numbers on my credit cards etc otherwise he will take money and that affects all other parts of our life.
He is devastated by his own behaviour but can't seem to stop.
He deletes all his text messages so that I can't read them and gets to the mail box before I can.
I just don't know what to do? I don't feel like I made a mistake marrying him, I love him so much.
And when he's clean he's the man of my dreams. But it never lasts.
I can't talk to anyone about this my parents would be devastated if they knew and they would suggest I leave him as would my friends and work colleagues.
But nobody suspects a thing because he has a good job is well dressed and articulate.
I live with this secret and its killing me. I could deal with it quite easily if he didn't lie about it all the time.
Lying is the no. 1 thing we argue about.
what the hell do I do? how do you get someone to stop lying? I know he loves me deeply and I know he understands clearly what the long term consequences could be. He has definitely improved over the years but its just such a slow process I want to do something to speed it up.
