HELP

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My partner is a compulsive liar! I am pregnant with our first child which i have just found out today he has told someone i had miscarried 2 months ago the person he told being a girl he used to work with who he had told me was not a girl at all but a man so seen as i knew otherwise from a picture on his phone spoke to and she filled me in seen as she thought id lost the baby he hasnt been unfaithful even though thats how it looks from this i know that for certain about the only thing i am certain about. he has lost his job twice for stealing since we got together the first time i knew abot as it happened the second yime he told me hed been offered a better posistion elsewhere which i later found out he was dismissed due to taking an unauthourised sub anyway to bring us up to date his new job was meant to be in management but he kept trying to hide payslips making me suspicious as i found one on the bathrrom sink wrapped in wet tissue which he obviously meant to dispose of and forgot i gave him the oppurtunity to admit this on more than one occasion which he didnt until recently when i confronted him about it along with other proven lies. the problem really is the fact we are currently living at my mothers we moved for a fresh start and my mothers was a stop gap while we got a house we applied for a mortgsge which he lied about his pay and posistion on the application i now know all this and dont know what to do our baby is due in 9 weeks we have no home i have no job as i had to leave work because of the move all our belongings are in storage and im scared for the future for me and our child if anything would change him i surely the thought of losing his child if he continues to lie would but im so scared that if i stay with him its all going to happen again in the future and even if we manage to get a home he will steal lose his job and not tell me meaning well lose our home he doesnt understand that if he was honest with me about finances we could of applied for a mortgage for a lesser amount and at leaset wed have a home if things went wrong and i could trust him to tell me there wouldnt be a problem he has lied continually through his life i later found out he saw a councellor briefly maybe 3 times but im unsure as i can only go on what he tells me though i know he did attend at least that amount as his parents paid the bill this hasnt proven effective. does anyone know of any treatment that may work? he knows i love him no matter what but im now at the stage were i may need to leave just for the sake of our child at least if alone i have myself to rely on as i can no longer rely on him. i really dont want to lose him but i dont know what to do or where he can go for help! sry about the length but i needed to tell someone as i dont feel i can talk to friends or relatives as it will affect their relationship with my partner!

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maybe you should ask yourself if you could put up with this indefinately cos it doesnt sound like its gonna change, if he can lie to you over this kind of thing what else is he capable of lying over?
if you cant see yourself putting up with this for a long term then maybe it would be easier on you not to have this guy around,
being a single mum isnt easy, having someone who undermines everything you do will probably just make it harder.

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