My 15-year-old daughter wants to marry a 54-year-old man

VeryWorriedMum · Guest

Hi there
My 15-year-old daughter wants to marry a 54-year-old man. She got engaged to him within six weeks and wants to marry him on her 16th birthday.

In another thread someone wrote:

Wasp_Star's_Smile · Posted: Sun Jun 19, 2005 4:07 pm Post subject:

there's only on response to her behaviour.
stop her pocket money.

younoyouwannit · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 9:03 am Post subject:

the age gap is in practical. he will have health problems soon. he will have manipulated her into his way of thinking.

allow her to do this. support her, and then pick up the pieces in 5 yrs when it goes tit's up.

alternatively, hire a hit man

CagedBeast · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 10:39 am Post subject:

Delaying tactics - don't go at this head on, put some kind of goal in her way. For instance, say that you dont' want her to marry till she's done her A levels, then you'll be happy. Imply that if she waits a little while she can do it with your blessing. And of course, by the time that comes around in 2 years, it will all have fallen apart.

niki22 · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 12:52 pm Post subject:

How about play your role as a parent and put your foot down?!

Does she live with you? If so, she's under YOUR rules. I would NEVER allow this to happen to my kid if I had one.

If she doesn't like it, TOO BAD. One day when she grows up, she'll thank you.

CagedBeast · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 1:09 pm Post subject:

>How about play your role as a parent and put your foot down?!

Aha. And how exactly would you make her OBEY?

Fine in theory, not so great in practice.

ali_mon_x · Joined: 08 Sep 2004 Posts: 3440 Location: Norfolk, England

I agree with niki, there's no way you should let a 15 year old marry a 54 year old. There's a 39 year age gap!

What does a 54 year old man want with a 15 year old anyway? He must be some sort of pervert.

You can make her obey by not giving your consent when she's 16...that's if you're in the UK, I'm not sure what the law is in other countries. If you put your foot down then hopefully by the time she's 18 she'll see sense.

CagedBeast · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 3:46 pm Post subject:

>You can make her obey by not giving your consent when she's 16...that's if you're in the UK

Yes... and? What does that do to your relationship? You just forbid it, withold your permission, and she can't marry - driving her MORE towards him, and away from her hateful heartless mother who can't bear to see her daughter happy....

Come on, think it through from her angle, can't you see how she would think about it?

I thought women were supposed to be good at this kind of thing... A direct confrontation won't solve anything.

STEVE5OO · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 8:07 pm Post subject:

Fangia · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 8:34 pm Post subject:

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 8:37 pm Post subject:

If they are in the UK it is far too easy to run away to Scotland for a day or 2. The law is only 16 there.

Fangia · Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 8:45 pm Post subject:

ICU2 · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 4:15 am Post subject:

Sounds like he has Michael Jackson syndrome.

niki22 · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:03 pm Post subject:

CagedBeast · Posted: Tue Jun 21, 2005 2:40 pm Post subject:

> It's called doing what's best for her kid....it's called disipline,

Sorry, I'm genuinely baffled here. How, exactly, are you going to FORCE a 16 year old child to do what you want?

I'm not saying you have to indulge your child in everything they want, but a 16 year old is not a slave. They won't just jump to your every command. How, in practical terms, can your FORCE a child to do something against their will?

I have trouble getting my four kids to do as I ask, and they're all under 7. I'd love to know this method of controlling them when they're 10 years older.