Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 4:08 am Post subject: I love the idea of Anal, my wife on the other hand...
I've been a T&A man ever since I can remember, though being a bit of a late bloomer, I was very timid about going beyond certain boundaries even when offered when I was younger. It wasn't until my early twenties that I really started taking up such a fetish interest in woman's butts. I'm still a boob man too, but I love woman’s butts and to me the ultimate fantasy is Anal sex. I've been married for 5 years now and we started our relationship 9 years ago. I'm now 30 & she is 30 too. Before my wife I had only 2-3 Anal experiences with girlfriends (by my suggestion). And since being with her we've only tried it a handful of times. She knows I’m crazy about it, but for the most part it's been pretty much a one sided interest. She's a mom of our two young girls, overworked, over stimulated, and simply overrun by the time I get off work. Anal sex or any kind of sex is simply not on her mind. When I get home, she wants to go to sleep and certainly doesn't want to be touched or prodded up the backside; meanwhile I’m overflowing with sexual interest. I'm hoping it's mainly the timing and things will improve here, but otherwise we are doing okay. Would I be lying if I said I hadn't thought about cheating on her, or searching some dating websites looking for some horny Anal welcome housewives? Absolutely... Have I cheated on my wife ever? No, unless pornos are considered cheating in which case I’m surly going to hell... What would I do if a "safe" opportunity rolled on top of me? I wonder that myself.
First off I love my wife and have the up most respect for her. But our sex interest levels are not the same and it has caused some issues. Maybe it's because I fantasize so much about Anal that it turns her off. I think we are just different here, unfortunately for me. I don't fantasize about it because I want to dominate or hurt her, in fact I want to please her as much as I can. In fact I wouldn't mind simply going down on her there just to please her. However, I can't explain it but I think a woman's butt is just a beautiful thing and making love to it just seems like the ultimate ecstasy. I also love watching Anal porn almost to the point where straight porn even with beautiful woman I find lacking... I almost wish I could just snap out of it and reconfigure my targets. I don’t' know if I just find regular sex boring or am just so consumed by butts and Anal, something I ponder from time to time. My wife likes her anus stimulated but past that she says, “I’m not one of those porno girls who can just do that…”
We had one successful Anal experience; the others were doomed from the start you could say. All could be going well, she could appear relaxed and we could have enough lube to swim in, but as soon as I try to stick him in, she screeches in pain and then ends the lesson. Even Straight sex hurts her at times. She always said that I’m gifted, but I don’t know that I ever believed her, especially compared to some of these porno studs who are hung like horses. I've read many different guidelines and hints, but either I’m just not patient enough, or it's simply something that doesn't float her boat. To try to even the odds I’ve (by myself) tried to stimulate myself down there and penetrate myself. I pretty much end up with the same results. Caressing the outside of the Anal feels quite good, but when I try to penetrate with even something thin, it just feels wrong, I tense up and this ends my lesson. So, I can't blame her reluctance for it as I’ve shared in her pain. But the one time it worked, the planets must have been aligned or something because it was the best time I ever had and I so want it back...
Sorry for such a long post, I hope it didn't put you to sleep and I’m not trying to be sick or advertise by posting what I wrote. I'd like to ask the woman, what would your advice be, if not on this post send me a private message, I want some honest feedback. For the men, are you in a similar predicament or am I just a Whacko?
Posted: Fri Oct 29, 2004 10:17 am Post subject: Re: handling Anal
I`ve had Anal on numerous occasions, generally when really drunk. I generally love it, but I`ve also had many embarrasing little accidents in my panties the next day. So I`m normally prepared.
If men want their women to love Anal, they need to take their time and do it right. It may take several sessions before a woman will feel ready enough to "accept" him. If a guy is just ramming it in, like he might be used to doing with a vagina, it's going to hurt like hell. Take your time, lots of lube, 1/2 inch at at time, stretch, little more, stretch, etc.... until she is relaxed and open to you. If you choose now to go hog wild on her, she's not going to like it. Once you get past that burning stage, it's really quite wonderful. We've just recently discovered the joy of Anal sex, after trying half heartedly for quite a long time. Now that we've been "successful", I don't think we'll be stopping anytime soon, it feels so good!
Whoa, steady on, I don't think the fellas on here would be too thrilled to think that you consider em all capable of being cheating barstewards if you don't give in to Anal. Yes, I think most fellas do want to try it but I also believe most fellas in a committed relationship would not go looking outside the relationship if its something their partners weren't comfortable with.
I was married to a woman who did not do Anal, so used to go to hookers for it, which was good but too expensive. Her resistance to Anal and other sexual acts eventually led to affairs and finally leaving her.
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