Compulsive Liar

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 2:00 am Post subject:

Some people on this forum have repeatedly posted that a compulsive liar can never change. That people living with them should get out now because there is no hope. If that is so, then why do we let prisoners get out of jail EVER? Is it just overcrowding?

People change. Sometimes they have to hit the bottom rung before they realize who they hurt with their destructive behavior. People they love and who love them.

It's a decision. Make it. Try it. Tell the truth once when you're sure it's going to hurt someone and see how fast they are able to deal with it on an honest level, because when a lie is found out, WHAT you lied about is not near as big an issue as the fact that you deceived someone you cared about. Mostly, that cared about you.

I've lived it.

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 6:41 am Post subject:

By definition, a liar who can change and stop lying is not a compulsive liar.

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 16, 2007 9:14 pm Post subject:

Okay, in other words, one with an Obsessive Compulsive disorder cannot be helped? How about the behavioral therapy these people are treated with? (Check it out) Are you saying that one should just acknowledge that they are "sick" and so be it. Can't change that! Rolling Eyes

Lying is a decision. You have to think it through. It can be changed. Murdering is a decision. It can be changed. Thieves change. Hey, even freaking child molesters are let out of prison and given a chance again.

Sounds like you've made up your mind. Let the liar go and move on. With an unforgiving attitude like yours, you'll just attract another...and another... and another.... Rolling Eyes

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Guest · Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 9:42 pm Post subject:

Lying. Maybe the wrong thread, but doesn't it just crack you up when a man's mistress complains that he is lying to her and is so surprised!? The only way he can see her is to out and out lie to his wife, kids, job and family, but she thinks that the *only* person he doesn't lie to is her?

Sorry, just read a blog on another site and she (the slut) has just "had it up to HERE" with his lying to her, but she's going to give him ONE MORE CHANCE. Laughing

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Desperate Lee · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 22 Apr 2007 Posts: 1

Hi im 16 yrs old and iv been a compulsive lier 4 about a year now!! throughout the year my lies have lost me so much!! and only now it is starting to kick in the consequences of ym actions...i have lost the one boy i truely was in love with, my best friend, and the trust of both my parents!! i want to stop so much to get my boyfriend back and my best friend please i am in desperate need of help!!! any advice on how to stop and get them back reply asap!!!

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 1:09 am Post subject:

How about deciding to QUIT LYING and then DON'T LIE ANYMORE.

The good thing is that at the young age of 16 you have already realized the devastation a good lie or two can do to those you love. You're already years ahead of the game.

How about admitting to THEM that you know what you did and you want to stop and you're sorry and understand that they don't trust you but ask for one more chance to show them you will not lie? THEN QUIT LYING.

It's not a fricking disease that you don't have control over. You have to consciously think of something convincing to pull it off. Then you have to keep remembering the lie just in case it comes back. That's how I always got caught. Damn, remembering the truth over the years is MUCH easier than remembering what lie I told.

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 4:46 am Post subject:

if you are a compulsive liar, there is no way you can stop lying just by deciding to stop.....when i realised i could not refrain from lying, i accepted the fact and decided to focus my energies on mastering the art of lying...it is easier and more fruitful for a compulsive liar to become an undetectable expert liar than it is to stop lying...own your defect....if you have a lemon, use it to make lemonade....

Guest · Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 5:13 am Post subject: