What should I do about my ex boyfriend who is now my friend

[Mandy_Nana]

Can anyone help? I was dating this guy at one point and I fell in love with him and decided to give him my womanhood. while dating him things moved so fast which led us to break up and now that we are friends I feel like he's giving me mixed signs.
Him and I broke up I think because I was too overwhelming, I never had a good man like him so I always wanted to snuggle under him all the time, I would always argue with him because he would come home from a long days work and wouldn't give me any attention. I always try to be the perfect girlfriend I would always have his dinner cook for him when he came home, and even though we didn't live together I always clean his house and washed his clothes, but I felt like he didn't like me doing that for him because he would make smart remarks about it or he wouldn't eat what I cooked him.
Now, him and I have been friends now for 1 1/2 years without dating but we still have sex once in a while, we still go places together as if we are couples, and sometimes he even calls me by those nicknames he use to when we was dating.
His oldest sister and I get along great and they are like best friends themselves, they tell each other everything. But while his sister came to vist him this past week she'd mention to me that maybe him and I would get back together, I told her I didn't think so because he's told me so more than once. she then replied and said she hope we will get back together and as much as I wanted to agree with her I didn't.
Now my question is (1) how can I get my man back without pressuring him
(2)Do you think him and the sister talked about him and I getting back together
(3)why does it seem like one min. he wants to be with me but then the next it seems like he doesn't

[roxy]

The first thing you need to do is slow down, give him some space, it sounds like you moved in and took over the first time, most men need to have space, and some freedom, especially if he hasn't been on his own for a long time! see him when he agrees to it, help out around the house only if he wants it, let him be in control of his life. I would imagine he has spoken with the sister, and has told her some , but probably not all of his thoughts. as far as being on and off with seeing you, I would guess he wants to see you, but then after having you around, especially busy about the house, he needs some space, and tries to push you away. this is how I see it, maybe you'll find others who see it differently!

Good luck

[Pia]

Well I can see how the guy would freak out when you started acting like his wife right away. Right now you sleep togethter so kind of dating casually. If he doesn't want anything serious yet then I don't see anything wrong with continue this way.