is it friendship or more???

Malia · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 31 Aug 2004 Posts: 12

ok this is probably gonna seem obvious to most, as it is to my m8's but for some reason it isn't to me
i've become really close friends with a guy, we talk we laugh, and at first he told me he liked my m8 so i tried setting them up and when i did this he sudenly changed his mind Confused

, anyway when i was doing that i didn't realise just how much i cared for this guy, and now i do!!!!! on a night he quite often comes up to my room and we sit and tlak and then he ends up stayin in my room, in bed with me, nothing happens like, but he does this quite regulalry like 3/4 times a week, the m8's think that because of the way we are togetha because we are really close and the fact that he keeps comin up to sleep beside me, is a sign that he also has feelings, what do u think, is it just a really close friendship or is there more init?? Confused

NO he isn't just looking for sex, because he is a genuine nice guy, always helpin out people, and looks out for those who are basically bullied he makes friends with them and makes them feel as thou they matter!!! maybe i am nieve (can't spell that) but he is a nice guy, (blinded by luv, i may be!! blinded by my feelings for him would be more appropriate!!)

LoveableNikki · Posted: Mon Jan 24, 2005 9:16 pm Post subject: hi

I think that you both have feelings for eachother that just have not been spoken. I have a friend who is kind of like that now except he just told me the way he feels about me. Do you have a boyfriend? If not than I would say if you really do like this guy friend go for it!! Sounds like you both would work good together if things stayed the way they are. If you value the friendship too much than maybe you should talk to him and see what he’s thinking about you two.

Reger · Posted: Thu Jan 27, 2005 11:05 am Post subject:

Maybe he touches you through the night when you are sleeping.......

Surprised

Malia · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 31 Aug 2004 Posts: 12

thanx,u helped confirmed what everyone else thinks n is tellin me, think it's bout time i faced the music n find out if he's thinin the same,
No he doesn't, not all guys are like that some are generally nice guys, and not just afta one thing!!!!

CeeJay · Posted: Thu Feb 03, 2005 12:54 pm Post subject:

Hi Malia,

I've been in the same kind of situation. In fact, we were friends for many years before eventually getting romantically involved. It didn't work out too well but (and it's a big "but") our deep friendship saw us through the separation. We're till very good friends, to this day (and, yes, we still occasionally sleep in the same bed... with lots of holding and cuddling, but no sex... it's very different... I like it).

Go with your heart. Be open to the possibilities. Don't fear the consequences. Focus on your friendship... whether you're "with" him or not.

Love,
CeeJay

Malia · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 31 Aug 2004 Posts: 12

thanx cj, tha means alot, to know tha sum1 who actually knows wot i'm goin on about has given me sum advice! THANX!!!!!! Cool

StraightMale · Posted: Sat Feb 12, 2005 4:52 pm Post subject:

- † Ðaryl † - · Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2005 12:50 am Post subject:

I have been in that position before..... i was with this girl and i dont know what was wrong... maybe i was just too immature. i liked her and she liked me.... she used to tell me she liked me, and we used to spend all our time with each other... but i couldnt reciprocate that..... i was confused.
Maybe hes in the same situation.... i think all he needs a is a little push... from you.
and by the way, guys like that are GENUINELY nice.

Malia · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 31 Aug 2004 Posts: 12

thanx for all the replies guys, it helped alot!!
much appreciated
xx