Split with girlfriend because of parents, has anybody else?

andy1984

Hi, I made a posting on the site just around a month ago, "Scared but willing to regain ex"
After reading a lot more stories from people on the site and taking heed of some of the advice given, I still feel the same way about my ex-girlfriend, and mainly feel like I want to gain her back.

What I wanted to ask, have any of you split with your partner, because their mother or father have become too involved in your relationship?

In my case, I split with my girlfriend because I felt her mother was too involved, (to me she seemed the secret 3rd partner) I would like to hear what some of the ladies say about this?

Also its been 5 months now, since we last spoke and split, I would love to just contact her to ask how she is doing and talk to her, but too scared of the parental reaction.

Any ideas?

Andy

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:19 pm Post subject:

A close relationship between mother and daughter isn't unusual.

If you want her back you will have to come to terms with that. Have you tried talking things through with your ex? Do you even know she is still single and wants the same things you want?

andy1984 · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 5:42 pm Post subject:

Thanks for replying Lesley, the trouble is I fear that her mother will intervene, her brother intervened last time I tried to ring some time ago, and he said some pretty nasty things to me, I blamed this on the fact she was still upset and couldnt bring herself to speak to me. A couple of days after her brother she rung, but I was too upset to return the call. Since then I have stayed away, with the feeling that my efforts might just be met with anger, since our split my parents have advised me to stay away, and I can imagine the same has been said in my ex's house.

Friends tell me to leave it, its a passing phase they tell me!
I keep thinking something will happen, but things only happen if somebody starts it, and as I was the causer 5 months ago, then I should naturally be the one to get in touch. I'm just too worried I would receive the wrong reaction.

Anybody got any suggestions on how to approach her after so long and by which means?

Many thanks everyone.

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 6:05 pm Post subject:

A phone call suggesting a meet up would be a good way. Invite her for a meal to talk about stuff. If you fear her brother is gonna be nasty again or her mum will interfere try gettin a female to ask for her then as soon as she gets the phone you speak.

andy1984 · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 6:20 pm Post subject:

Thanks for giving me encouragement Lesley, its gonna take a lot to get in touch, the added complication of parents and mainly the reaction I could potentially get.

Only one more added complication, my friend John, I set him up with one of my ex's best mates, they are still seeing eachother, the conversation between me and her mate is difficult to say the least, do you think it would be worth asking her first of her opinion, or should I just go for it! Also if she spots my number on her mobiile she could possibly ignore, should I just send a text, or ring with a withheld number?

God, I know how to make it complicated, lol.

xXx.Lesley.xXx · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 6:55 pm Post subject:

Hi again, im sorry i dont know the ages of any of you but at a guess id say she was about 16. Don't say nowt to her friend, Its nowt to do with noone but you and your ex.

She is her own person. At the end of the day no matter what anyone says to her the final decision is her own.

I think the best thing to do is call her mobile with a withheld number (if she answers withheld ones) and try it like that. I'm not sure a text is such a good idea as you will not have any idea what her 1st reaction will be like when she recievs it. And also if she has no credit to reply you would be gutted i think. So pick that phne up and call her right now! Ask her out for dinner and see where things go from there Very Happy

Good luck xxx

andy1984 · Posted: Wed Mar 23, 2005 7:07 pm Post subject:

Thanks Lesley, I'm gonna call her the weekend, gonna shift this cold/cough I have at the moment, and ring her on a withheld number at the end of the week.

She's 19, but in some respects can sound like she has the behaviour of a 16 year old.

Thanks once again, I will keep you posted.