Heartbroken again

[Riz_1980]

Its happened again, my heart has been broken and i feel my life is over... all i have had mostly for the past 10 years is hurt and pain.

My ex dumped me without reason by text and now the lady who i want to spend my life with doesnt love me

Im in so much pain right now, what have i been doing wrong?

Im so lost and my work mates said i should take time off work..... i said i cant because when i am alone i cry and the hurt gets worse, almost cried today working.

I have my own place now but it doesnt mean anything to me.......

I dont post much but thought i would share this with you, i need advice... what can or do i do?

She told me she needs time and space to think about things......

Im hurting so badly..... ive been advised to go and see i doctor but i cant.... they cant help me, or can they?

help.

Riz

[Pia]

I understand Riz. When I married my ex I thought it would be my first and last but that did not work out. It was really painful. I hope she realises how much you love her. I hope we can help you feel better. [/url]

[Riz_1980]

I understand Riz. When I married my ex I thought it would be my first and last but that did not work out. It was really painful. I hope she realises how much you love her. I hope we can help you feel better. [/url]

I`m heartbroken but i still love her and always will love her, im not going to love again..... not after this.

I dont know how i will feel better, it took over a year to get over my ex but it left me shy and weak..... this has killed me on in the inside.

I dont see a point to life anymore.......

Riz

[Pia]

Oh Riz my dear don't give up. If you want her back you have to give her the space and see what happens. If you truely love someone you have to give that person the freedom of choice.

[buddy]

Sorry to hear that riz...life is S*** sometimes, but pia is right..don't give up. Give her all the space she needs...let her know you'll be there for her.
I understand your hurting right now, you love her, so give her what she needs and she may surprise you.
You have quite a few friends on here riz....and im sure any one of us will be there for you anytime,
Hope it works out for you.
xx

[butterflychick]

they will help you! i was heart broken wen me and my ex split up and i thought they would think i was just a silly teenager....i felt ill alot though because of thr depression and the doctor picked up on the fact i was always ill and i went to a councillor and she helped me get better.
once u go to the doctors and say you have depression they cant say you dont and they have to make u feel better.....and some antidepressants arent addictive now if it comes to that...which is shudnt.
please go to the doctor riz! you are a brilliant mate and i hate seeing you upset!

[lil*minx]

I'm so sorry Riz but the pain does subside...slowly albeit.

Don't give up on love though, it takes time to find your soulmate.

[Riz_1980]

She is my soulmate and im never giving up on her, always going to be there for her.

I have had a friend around lastnight to keep my company as it hurts the most when im alone at home.

She said she still wants to remain friends, im honoured to know her and if that is all she can offer then i will have to live with that, it hurts and i dont know how we will go out etc as friends only... how does one control ones feelings?

I understand her and know she has alot on her mind, i just wanted to be there for her.

I know theres plenty of fish in the sea but i dont want any fish..... i want this one! nothing more, nothing less.

I love her for who she is, not what she has etc.

I think the hardest part is living day by day not knowing if shes ok or if anything bad has happened etc.... not being able to say hi etc....

For the moment im going to just try and deal with the hurt and try and eat/sleep which is most difficult.

Especially when i have to be at work early etc and drive around most of the day.....

Was listening to radio one on the way home and that lamar song came on..... brought a tear to my eye..... im very sesitive when it comes to feelings etc and could quite easily breakdown......

A lady at work says i should get out there and that im attractive etc but i dont feel at all like that.

People think just because im 24 and have my own place i would automatically be out and about chasing women... im not.

I must thank you all for your support and i never thought i would say this but this forum now makes sense to me......... it helps alot when people respond.

I only wish that oneday me and her can be together..... whenever that may by who knows?

I will live with my hurt and lonelyness until that day......

I love her more than i could ever describe and i realise that i cant be selfish and want what i cant have i hide my pain or atleast try to... i have to work to pay all my bills of etc and mortgage...... deal with alot of other issues also.... so its not easy.

But one thing is for sure.... if i wait and we cant be together what point is there to life........? I cant be happy without her that i do know.

Has anybody waited for their loved one for 2 years?

Riz

[Pia]

Riz the best way to deal with this is to take good care of yourself. Keep busy. My sister did break up with her fiance when they thought the distance was too great. Anyway, they got back together after about a year. If you want to show that you're there for her, you have to show that you're strong. She wouldn't want to see you if that will make you sad. Understand what I'm saying? Women in general like men who they can trust, who they think are emotionally stable. Unconditional love may be all you can give her right now.

[Wood_Nymph]

Its happened again, my heart has been broken and i feel my life is over...

How many years had you been with this new lady?

I feel for you, don't be scared to ask for help as bfc suggests! I'm sure you are a really nice guy but if you are falling for people and they derstroy you life like this (when it goes wrong) then it suggests you may need to grow a little?!

I don't mean that in a horrible way - it happens to us all & yes it feels like the end of the world... but it's happened twice to you... I've been there before anyone thinks I'm being nasty!

Find yourself! Build from within Riz! hugs

[Riz_1980]

I just dont know what to do... dont understand what ive done wrong.....

Maybe it something about me which she didnt like.

I just have no idea what im going to do....

Riz

[lil*minx]

Don't start blaming yourself or thinking that you did something. She made her decision...it isn't your fault. Just be yourself!

[Riz_1980]

Don't start blaming yourself or thinking that you did something. She made her decision...it isn't your fault. Just be yourself!

I must have done something wrong.... its happened before....

Ive had enough!

Thank you for all your advice people.

Take care

Riz

[ali_mon_x]

My ex dumped me without reason by text and now the lady who i want to spend my life with doesnt love me

By text? That's not really on is it! Have you asked her why she didn't have the guts to tell you to your face?

[butterflychick]

ok im gonna stick up for her!
she cudnt tell him face to face cos she cant see him face to face....they have to be secret friends so meeting up is outta d question.
i hope u r ok riz....i hate to c u upset but u shud try to be friends with her and eventually u will find someone else much more availiable n suitable for u!