Boyfriend wants to watch me pee. What do I do????.

[Dianne]

Hi,

A couple of weeks ago, I announced as you do sometimes, that I needed to go for a wee. My boyfriend asked me if he could watch, which I thought was said as a joke, and we both laughed it off and I didn't think any more of it.

Later that evening, my b/f somehow raised the subject about how women go to the toilet and was talking about how inconvenient it must be for us to partially undress and sit down to pee. He then started to ask me questions about the way I pee like, do I always sit down?, do I squat over a public toilet, and what do I do if I need to go outdoors and that type of thing, which I thought was just a curiosity thing, with us having different equipment than a guy, which I had no problems discussing.

Then his questions became rather intimate asking me to describe what it feels like for a woman when she pee's, and to describe what my pee stream looks like, and at what angles does my stream exit my body?, which was beginning to make me feel a bit uncomfortable. He then told me that he had a sexual fantasy about watching a women pee, and asked if he could watch me in the toilet.

I didn't react very well, as I felt rather shocked by what he had told me and the questions he had been asking, and I told him he was being too kinky and that he couldn't watch me in the toilet and I was ashamed that he had asked something like that. I admit that my reaction made him feel terrible and he said he was sorry and would never mention it again which ended the conversation.

I thought about it afterwards and felt really sorry for him for the way I reacted badly and basically perceived he was being a pervert at the time, but I have thought since thinking that maybe I should allow him to watch me pee if it's something that he really want's to see, or just forget he mentioned it.

I was just wondering if any other women have had boyfriends or husband's asking to watch them pee, and whether anyone belives this could be just be a normal erotic request or the beginning of something kinky. I am just confused a little as to what I should do. Help!!!!

Thanks Dianne

[mattsgurl4life]

it all depends on how long u two have been dating, if it's going to be a big turn-on for him, then let him watch u. there's going to be no harm done is there? i mean if u've had sex he's already seen ur area so what's the difference?!?!

[mattsgurl4life]

it all depends on how long u two have been dating, if it's going to be a big turn-on for him, then let him watch u. there's going to be no harm done is there? i mean if u've had sex he's already seen ur area so what's the difference?!?!

[VimFuego]

Hi Dianne,
It works both ways, I've been out with girls that liked to watch me wee. I just put it down to curiosity as they had never seen a man wee before and we were comfortable enough with each other and our bodies, so it was never a problem.
Not that I went the toilet and they followed just to watch it was more of a case of them coming into the bathroom to have a shower,run a bath,brush their teeth etc. but when they started asking questions about men weeing and stuff it was obvious why they really come into the bathroom.
Many couples share their bathroom habits, personally I draw the line at sharing the bathroom whilst taking a dump , some things have to be done in private.

[Elle]

Never seen the point of it myself, to me it either appears a bit wierd or a hang up from when he was a little boy. It is like when he was about 6 ish and he wondered about why little girls sat down to pee and little boys stood up to pee and he never actualy found out.
The thing is if you are ok with it why not each to thier own

[N]

Dianne,

I love watching my wife pee, it is a fantastic sight. She likes to do it to turn me on although it doesn't do much for her.

If the thought of it turns you off then don't do it, but if you can do it to pleae him then carry on.

There are no rules on sexual enjoyment and the qicker we overcome stupid barriers the better.

N

[Tom]

There is no call for thinking he is a 'pervert' as you put it, just because he is curious. If you can't share an everyday experience such as this with someone you love, without thinking that there is something 'wrong' with them, then perhaps there is something quite overly inhibited about you that you need to look at.

Men and women, both, with an open mind, like to know what the differences in each others experiences are like.

And peeing is a natural activity, not dirty.

[Dianne]

I have heard of golden showers and worse in regard to couples sharing peeing activities which I feel is rather disgusting, and I think I felt shocked more than anything, thinking maybe my B/F wanted to take things further and get into golden showers etc, which for me is definitely a turn off. We have been dating for over a year, and I do love him very much, but the initial shock of things dissapointed me thinking we were not on the same sexual wavelength that I thought we were.

I can understand it being a curiosity thing, I mean the first few times I saw a guy pee, I thought wow!!!, how neat and thought about what it would be like to have that much control over things compared with a woman, but it didn't turn me on or think of it as something sexual. It's because he said that he had a sexual fantasy about seeing a woman pee is what I didn't understand and caused me to feel a little shocked and uncomfortable.

He definitely doesn't seem to be a perverted kind of guy, and I am almost sure that he is not, but I guess my question here is to get some others opinion on the matter. I dont have a problem with friends and family seeing me pee if I really need to go and total privacy isn't possible, because it's a natural function and everyone does it, but peeing being considered an erotic act is the part I don't really understand.

[Guest]

If he just wants to see u pee and u dont have a problem with him
watching u ,why not tell him that u will let him see u pee, aslong as it
doest lead to golden showers and other kinky stuff.

[-]

being a man i recognise that (for me personally) it is a turn on, as to why, i have no idea! i think its the whole tabo aspect of it. i haven't asked my gf, i wouldn't know how to break it to her (ideas) we have told each other that we can do anything together, nothings taboo, but hmm i just think she'll think it weird, i think i'll stick to the _ stuff lol.

btw a womans point of view - is looking at porn on the net when in a relaytionship wrong?

thanks for ur advice

[ezzaspider]

my bf has also thought this would be cool, and not that it does anything really for me - i said it would be fun to try, we havent yet, but im sure at one stage we will..

i personally dont find it dirty, or overly kinky..

and i dont find the porn wrong - we do it together, and when we are alone...

[AnitaW]

Can't really see the big deal myself. The whole affair doesn't particularly turn me on, but I've peed on my b/f in the bath before now at his request and he loved it. Fair enough I guess - it's him that's getting peed on, not me

[The Amazing Salamander]

There is no call for thinking he is a 'pervert' as you put it, just because he is curious. If you can't share an everyday experience such as this with someone you love, without thinking that there is something 'wrong' with them, then perhaps there is something quite overly inhibited about you that you need to look at.

Men and women, both, with an open mind, like to know what the differences in each others experiences are like.

And peeing is a natural activity, not dirty.

Yeah, no need for that.

[lp]

Just to add my $.02 (yes, I'm a Yank) I had a girlfriend in college with whom I had a 5 year relationship. I don't remember how it started, but for some reason we both got very excited when we saw each other pee.

We loved to tease each other by running into the (private) wc when the other needed to go and stroke either ourselves, in their line of sight, or touch them. That made it very difficult to actually let go, but was extremely exciting.

We went so far as to wee on the other's privates, but never in the mouth, etc. She's come just from feeling my stream on her clit.

I'm not sure why it was so exciting, and I've never been drawn to do it with anyone else, it was our thing, but to this day, when I see her (10 years later), we don't let the other know when we have to go, or we both still get excited.

So, if you try it and like it, great! If not, so you tried...

[edm]

let him watch i love to see people pee and realy get turned on by it