Am I wierd

[Guest]

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[Guest]

get lost bitch dont tell me what i gota do

[Guest]

Oh hell no - if YOU have the problem discussed then I think you should NEVER seek help, sit on it and spin and be miserable for the rest of your freakin' life because you don't deserve anything as good as sexual satisfaction.

Now, I'm goNNa tell you what you goTTa do. Spread your thumb and forefinger real wide. Got it? K, now raise your hand up to your forehead. Got it? K. There now, that's a good look for you.

Flame on loser.

[Guest]

get lost bitch dont tell me what i gota do

Do you have permission from your parents to be on the internet?

[Guest]

i have permission from my parents.
But let me ask you you silly dirty bitch, do you have permission from your parents to have sex?

[Allah akbar]

I think you need to see your doctor. Also maybe take a tranquilizer to relax before penetration.

[tagger]

I had just started a new thread about this and then stumbled onto this one. One thing the doctor mentioned was a botox injection at the vagismus site. Has anyone heard of this?

[Guest]

My wife has Vagismus. We have been married for almost 2 years now and both came into marraige vergins. Needless to say our wedding night (and our entire honeymoon) was not we had hoped it would be. Plenty of foreplay, we took a long bath in the hot tub lit with candles, massages, oral sex, we were having a great time. But when we finally decided to go for it... instant tears and screaming... she practically threw me off her. We were both dumbstruck. We thought maybe she was tired from a long day of pictures, family, guests, food, so we decided to try in the morning.... same result if not worse. This went on for months. When we finally gave up trying and went to a doctor, we found out that we wre not just crazy. She went through the physical therapy involving dialators and it seemd to be working very well. We reached the point where i was able to almost fully penetrate her (Once, any movement in and out or second attempts was more than she could handle.) The therapist told us that there was nothing more she could do and that we should just keep up with the dialators and working on penetration.

This did not work out so well. By that point my wife had lost pretty much all sexual desires and drive that she once had. She did not keep up with the dialators and we have not practiced penetration more than a couple times since then (it's been about a year since she stoped therapy). "Sex" for us basically involves oral and hands and happens maybe once a month or less. Any suggestions or talk about sex or starting up therapy again usually just leads to fights or her resenting me. I have pretty much accepted the fact that i will never have a satisfying sexual relationship with my wife. I will never devorce her, i love her more deeply than i can describe and can deal with not getting sex. I was just wondering if anyone has any suggestions for things i can say or do for her to help her.

[Guest]

That is a very sad story. You sound like a prince. There HAS to be something out there that can help you two. Try holistic. Try another doctor. Search search search on the net.

[Tinkers]

Hi

I have never posted a message before I googled the condition 'vaginmus' and this page came up.

This is quite embarrassing for me. I am 27 years old and I have a big problem with sex. I find it very painful and so try to avoid it cos it's not enjoyable for me.

I was abused as a child and I think this is part of the problem. I have survived and overcome this in every other way so this is my last hurdle.

My final victory and happiness will be in enjoying a normal and healthy relationship...

Can anyone suggest anything that may help?

Thank you in advance and I'm sorry if I made anyone feel uncomfortable.

[Tinkers]

I think you need to see your doctor. Also maybe take a tranquilizer to relax before penetration.

A tranq???!!! This is an horrendously ignorant suggestion.

This simply masks the problem. The whole point is to enjoy it with the man you are with, not just do the actions.

This might work for a one night stand but if you have to be out of it to sleep with the person you love you might as well not bother.

And what if you did do this and then you got used to it and ended up dependent on pills (tranqs are both physically & psychologically addictive)creating a whole new problem.
Everyone please do not listen to this infantile and harmful suggestion.

[Guest SOS]

I don't think a "sexually relaxed" upbringing is always "healthy".
My wife has symptoms just like vaginismus as her "sexually relaxed" upbringing led to a lot of regrets that led to bad feelings about sex that led to the problems we suffer now.
You never know how early is too early to deal with sex until you actually cross that line and then it's too late.
Sex is a wonderful thing in the proper time and place.
Just because some people have a good experience with sex in their teenage years or even 20's, or good experience with sex friends/lovers/etc does not mean it's for everybody.
The safest line to draw is sex within a marriage based around protection and love and a desire to please the other partner.
As much as I tried to protect, love, and please my wife, her regrets over her past mistakes that I don't even bring up...... have ruined our sex life so far.
I think there are a lot of pied pipers of sex out there telling young people to go ahead and try it but if even one young lady or man suffers as a result, it is one too many.

[Guest 30]

I have this problem also. Im in my 30's and have been married for several years and have not had sex with my husband. It has basically ruined my marriage. Everyones suggestion is to go to the gyn, but I think part of the fear IS going to the GYN. I honestly think that part of the problem is that subconciously Im not attracted to men. Im not saying this is the case with anyone else. But I have had vagisimis my whole life. I have never even been able to use a tampon. There are times however that a finger or two can go inside with no pain. My advice is to go to the GYN because the longer you wait, the less patient your partner becomes. He feels that he is not good enough, or not what you really want. So if you want to keep these men, do him a favor and see the doctor and take his or her advice. There comes a point where you have to chose your fear over your marriage. The longer you wait the harder it will be to correct the problem.

[katy1981]

no way are you wierd.

[Guy w/ suggests/comment]

For those having this Psychological based prob:

An efective treatment involves *SelfStimulation,
- at 1st privately until orgasm is accheived or;
-at minimum some eXcitement, then:

*Key item here; - 2nd:
In front of; -*AND `On Display` 4 your partner.
- 'Rabbits'(or other aids) are
*VERY! Beneficial in both stages.

Until this activity `reTrains` varios synapse circuts in brain, -and co-ordinates the `cross-talk` between Physical Pleasure Centers and Psychological regions, a high probability exists that little(if any) improvement will occur.

The comment part is that:
I High prefer oral activity nearly always.
That said:
As long as I receive head to
*SWALLOWED CUMpleation;
-I care little if 'enter'action needs to wait while improvment happens, or fails to improve quite honestly, provided:

*Desire to Please ME,
and some enjoyment is happening for MY wench.