Topless sunbathing - who decides?

[THAT_GUEST]

No I havent gone that far....but I did sunbathe in a Thong when on hols in spain (private garden) tryin to balance the white to tan ratio up....what i didnt take into account was the fact that my bum hadnt seen the sun since i was about 4 years old....and quite frankly it didnt seem to like it much!
It was bright red, and felt like the sun!
As this was on the last day....the 4 hour flight was not good at- all!!
ouch

Schnikeys, that had to hurt! Didn't your bf apply lotion tenderly, and chikaningly...I mean caringly? LOL

[Emma2412]

I spend half my life in Italy where going topless is no big deal. In fact everyone does it, even the guys! (lol)

[tinaspade]

I'm surprised this is even an issue. If you are comfortable about it, do it. If you're not don't.

I do it and my bf absolutely loves it.

[BadGuy]

Topless is always best! my girlf only sunbathes topless and she wears micro Wicked Weasel bikini's - she wont wear anything else since i bought them for her! She then bought me a matching posing pouch for the beach! You should see the friends we make! - We're both 22 and as we like to say - be daring - its much more fun!

[AussieAdam]

I have never ever had the nerve to tell a girlfriend what she can or cant wear or if she can go topless or not. I think when guys spend half the time looking out for topless chicks on a beach they have a ruddy nerve saying their girlfriend cant go topless.

We do not live in the reign of Queen Victoria I do not expect a girl to show as little or as much flesh as I decide. Its her choice and respcet has nothing to do with it.

In fact it I think the reasons why many guys DONT want their girlfriend or wife to go topless has nothing at all to do with respect. It is because of their own insecurities. They see the girl as a form of personal property, they dont want other guys looking or glancing at her.

I actually take it as a great compliment when a guy looks at my girl. After all I am with someone they would like to be with

[andypants]

Just go nude, it solves all of the problems!

[OverDrive]

I wish I could go topless, but because of where I live, a lot of people would be offended and set the police on me and stuff.
Lucky lucky people on the continent. Breasts are beautiful, why hide them away? I wish I could sunbathe topless without everyone either preaching at me or raping me.

[madangie]

I do it & my partner doesn't mind

[RedBalloons]

If other women are topless then I go topless too. I've never had the nerve to be first to take my top off, but if there are others around then so will I. I don't do dark tans these days but a bit of relaxing in the sun and colour is good for the soul. And I prefer not to have tan lines round my boobs. I use factor 30 now.

If you want to go topless on a UK beach these days then just move away from the crowds and there will be like minded women. Though not many stride down to the sea topless like we all do in Spain!

My husband likes me to go topless and the closet exhibitionist in me likes when I attract some passing attention. I've been on nude beaches about a dozen times. I do admit to initially enjoying the sexual feeling of being naked in public, but that wears off after a while. Maybe that means I'm a closet naturist too!

Would I still do it he didn't want me to? Question doesn't arrive as I wouldn't have married someone so uptight!

[Moira Mac]

My boyfriend is if the opinion that if I want to get my tits out, go ahead. I've said often enough before I do naturism, and I've been an artists model in a college, so to me getting naked partly or fully in the right scenario isn't a problem. I talked my two sisters into it when on holiday, they hated the idea at first, now they don't mind. Or maybe they don't like there baby sister showing them up

[soonpower]

topless is alright. total freedom.

[Love-dot]

I love going topless and get a buzz out of the attention I get

[HeidiTexas]

but I have dropped my top to apply oil and gotten plenty of attention

[sally wey]

But I don't see it as controlling. Mutual respect as well as respect for yourself, goes a long way in solidifying a relationship. I'm not saying "put your top on now." I'm more suggesting "please put your top on, who knows who any of these people are or there intentions." I think there are purely too many whacko puritanical types and those who are intent on getting internet material.

Hey, we see things differently, and that's cool. It takes all kinds to make the world go around, right?

Im with you, its respect for your partner, we go to a nudist beach, but we put some clothes on to go to the shops at the beach, respect for others, whatever you do always talk and respect your partners wish,
Sally

[poisonblood]

I notice the progression in your line of thinking stops before it is played out to conclusion. It is more than you suggest. When a man asks his woman to put a top on, or wear a skirt of a non exposing length, it is a matter of respect. Respect for the relationship in keeping some things sacred; respect for the woman to not be putting herself on display, which works into even more self respect for her. When one line is crossed, it makes it so much easier to cross the next line, and the next, and the next. Until the boundaries of the relationship are so blurred, there is nothing much left keeping it together. I don't see that as controlling, I see it as common sense.

i agree with you, it is about having respect for the relationship and one'sself

im a woman and i wouldn't go topless, one because i wouldn't feel comfortable being exposed

and 2, i get enough perverted looks from like 60 year old men, and i dress very modestly to avoid that (i'm 17, btw)

if i were topless i'd just more of those looks from old men, and i don't want to be looked at as an object, or as something with boobs, but as a person. it is about having respect for yourself and your rights to be seen as a human not a sex toy