Feeling nervous about first time

curious_kim · Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 12:55 pm Post subject: Feeling nervous about first time

Hey people, it's been a while since I've posted anything on here but a lot has happened since I've been away. I met someone pretty special a few months ago and although we've spent a few weekends together, we've not even so much as kissed. Not because we don't WANT to but I guess it's just shyness on both our parts.

We've discussed taking things further and both want to soon. We're spending this weekend together again and I have a feeling something will happen. She prefers for me to ''take charge'' (talk about pressure!) and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous. It's different with men, easier in some ways.

Guess I just need a little support, any advice from those who've ''been there'' would be great. Cheers girls.

cuddlyyorksgal · Posted: Thu Nov 29, 2007 4:26 pm Post subject:

Don't be nervous, take her by the hand, kiss her gently and take things one step at a time.

If it's meant to happen, it will.

I'm sure you'll both be fine, enjoy yourselves and just relax.

Keep us posted too lol

ENJOY Wink

BeachBall · Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 7:12 pm Post subject:

A little bit of alcohol may help you along - but don't overdo it.

curious_kim · Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 5:42 pm Post subject:

Cuddly & Beachball, thanks for the advice. Well I kissed her for the first time the day before she was due to go back home and it was just lovely. No other words to describe it. We also went a little futher than just kissing but all of a sudden feeling a bit shy about posting about it! Embarassed

My stomach flips everytime I think about her. The whole experience so far has been good and I hope it continues that way.

cl · Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 6:43 am Post subject: hello there

so you got your first girl kiss.....wonderful isnt it? the softness the tenderness.....wonderful! I have a suggestion on the shyness, two actually....dont rush it....some women never go past the kiss....some do.....second....do what you would like done to you....

If you love when guy takes and cradles your face and gently rubs your cheek before he kisses you then try this with your gf....Do what you like and she will let you know (one way or the other) how it feels to her!

The woman I am with right now.....tookk the first move and kissed me.....not beause I was shy but because I didnt want to make her cross that line.....as soon as she kissed me we were both toast! grin......so enjoy dont ruh and dont put pressure on you or her.....I agree if it is meant to be it will happen!

curious_kim · Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 6:53 pm Post subject:

Hi cl, yeah it was pretty damn good, every bit as good as I imagined it would be. It wasn't exactly my first kiss with another girl though but it was my first proper kiss with a girl for over 10 years so I'd as good as forgotten what it feels like.

Thanks for the sound advice. I've been taking notes Laughing

We've talked about what turns her on and I'm working with that for now, I think the nerves have a lot to do with wanting to satisfy her. Thanks again!

Dark Clarissa · Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 7:06 pm Post subject:

Being shy is good to some extent. It means that you care...and that's a wonderful thing Very Happy

bicurious_midlands

curious_kim · Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 8:19 pm Post subject:

Dark Clarissa, never thought about it that way but it makes perfect sense

Hey Bicurious Midlands, not at all! I'm a firm believer in just going with the flow whether it be the first date or the tenth, as long as you feel safe and secure with that person. Wish you all the best with your new special someone.

xcholebitchx · Posted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 6:48 pm Post subject:

I remember my first time... The thing is, if you have feelings for the other person then it will just flow naturally.

Don't feel like you have anything to live up to, or that you will do anything wrong.

First and foremost... just enjoy x