10. Do You Avoid Finding Strong Male Role Models For Your Son?
By having no strong male role models in their lives, boys are prone to gravitate towards:
* Having a distorted sense of self-worth
* Feeling irrelevant in our society
* Rebelling against authority
* Being passive males
* Having a deep sense of vulnerability
* Wondering about their legacy
* Not respecting the female gender
* Not understanding, respecting or embracing manhood
* Not understanding, respecting or embracing marriage
* Not understanding, respecting or embracing fatherhood
As they reach adulthood, these harmful traits make men become societal undesirables. As a single mom, you must make seeking out strong godly male role models for your son a top priority. Start with your child’s father. The only reasons you should keep your son away from his biological father is because his dad:
* Is an alcoholic, drug user or drug dealer
* Is wanted by the police or other authorities
* Has harmful mental or other psychological issues
* Is a thug or is involved in other criminal activity
* Is an abuser, molester or perpetrator of domestic violence
* Has threatened physical harm or violence
* Poses a safety threat to you or child in some other fashion
Barring none of the above, you should not prevent your child’s from interacting with his dad. After the child’s biological father, look at the men in your family, church, after school programs and organizations that are passionate about raising boys. Be clear on this irrefutable fact: your son needs honorable men in his life if he is going to properly transition from boyhood to manhood.
If he has no godly strong male role models, your son will go from boyhood to adulthood, while skipping manhood. Don’t deceive yourself into believing that you can raise your son without men, you cannot.
