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Wife watching / sharing

Postby paul4444 on Tue Jul 26, 2005 5:49 pm

Wife watching / sharing.

I have often wondered why some men, like myself are into, or would like to be into wife watching or sharing. Has something happened to make them want to do this?
Also how does one go about encouraging our wives to take part?
I have many questions but first will try to explain what I believe to be my own reasons for this.
I married fifteen years ago when I was nearly forty to a very attractive girl about twenty years younger than me. We had two children and had been married for eight years when I suspected that she was having an affair. She denied it but after several months I confronted her with the proof and she admitted it. We tried to patch things up but then the wife of the man she had been seeing dropped another bombshell when she told me that my wife had been seeing someone else about two years earlier.
When she admitted this affair to me I left her for a few days but she told me that she loved me and didn’t want us to split up. I came home and we talked late into the night before going to bed. I said that I had been imagining all sorts of things when I had been lying in bed on my own and, no matter how painful it would be for both of us, I needed to know what had happened with her two lovers.
She had gone to the second more recent lover’s home one day when his wife was at work and after kissing for a while in the kitchen he had led her upstairs to the bedroom. They had removed all their clothes before getting into bed except for the stockings and suspenders that he asked my wife to leave on.
Her lover was a few years young than my wife, not very experienced, and after a very short period of foreplay, just climbed onto my wife and after another short period of thrusting, came in her. This had been the only time full sex had happened between them.
I was aware as she was telling me this that my throat had become very dry, my heart was pounding and, I felt ashamed to admit, a little aroused! My mouth was so dry that I had to fetch a glass of water before she continued.
When she started to tell me about her first lover, a man nearly my age and more experienced, I asked for more details explaining that it was important that there was nothing left untold.
He was a regular caller to my house although I had not suspected anything at the time because my children were always there. He had made it clear to her that he fancied my wife and of course I realise now that men must have looked at my pretty young wife, with an older husband who they probably thought couldn’t keep up with her, and thought that they would try to chat her up. I would often be working late and she welcomed the attention and flattery.
So one day Mike called when the children were away and, to cut a long story short, they ended up kissing on the sofa. It was in the summer and she told me that she had been wearing a white blouse, bra, knickers and a long skirt, all of which he removed leaving her completely naked.
This was about eight years ago and I had only recently shaved her pussy and I can remember thinking that here was a man who now knew what I thought to be was a very personal secret between my wife and myself. I wanted to know everything that he had done and she told me how he had pulled her bottom to the edge of the sofa so that he could lick her pussy before unzipping his jeans, take his C*** out and slip it into her wet pussy.
After a while he stood up, took his jeans off and laid her on her back so that he could f**k her on the floor. She didn’t want to tell me any more but I insisted and she told me how he had lifted her legs over his shoulders whilst he f****d her, then gripped her ankles and held her legs apart so that he could look at her as he f****d her.
He then turned her over and f****d her doggy fashion before cumming in her. Whilst I was hearing all this I realised that I was feeling very flushed and was getting very turned on and very horny. I moved over to her, pulled her to me and with the minimum of foreplay, just enough to get her wet, I just couldn’t wait to slip into her and start to f**k her.
I have often replayed in my mind the scenes that she described to me and I have found that the initial hurt I felt then has been replaced with strong feelings of eroticism and a desire to watch her with another man. Have any of you wife watchers had similar experiences to cause you to want to share your wife?
I have more to tell and more questions to ask later.

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Postby ProtossX on Tue Jul 26, 2005 5:52 pm

WTF dude are u gay or somethin?

can u not plz ur wife urself?

dude if u like ur wife so much fux her urself watchin another guy fuxing my g/f would be retarded who the hell wants to see another naked guy if ur str8?

ur really weird an u prolly have some weird mental probs cuz i know tons of guys an none of em want their g/f to be f*cked by another guy

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Not weird actually, and not uncommon

Postby zeuren on Tue Jul 26, 2005 9:21 pm

I too have this fantasy. My wife and I often talk about it. We have a fantasy where she goes into some nightclub toilets and has sex with another man.

I want to watch her too. It is a lifestyle which beckons us.

To some this topic is weird but to many others it is a fantasy or a reality. It is kept in the closet, but it is happening all around you every night.

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Postby paul4444 on Fri Jul 29, 2005 8:58 am

I have read accounts here from men and woman about wife watching or sharing and am interested to know how one can take fantasising about it to actually doing it.
Does the woman in the partnership have a stronger sexual appetite than her partner and the husband accepts another man in the relationship?
Or is it the man who encourages his wife because he wants to see her being pleasured by another man?
I would welcome views from other men and women who have actually participated in wife sharing, how they got started, whether they used a friend, or whether they prefered a discreet stranger from the swinging sites on the internet.
Also, how does one go about suggesting this to ones own wife?

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Postby Erica4U on Sun Oct 09, 2005 1:26 am

It's very erotic!! Even just watching another couple is erotic! Imagine your spouse getting f*cked or doing the F******! If it excites you and you are both agreeable! have Fun!
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Postby mande on Sun Oct 09, 2005 6:30 am

I've done a bit of swinging before, and I've also been in a similar situation as you (making a cheating gf tell me everything she did).
I think it's normal, and certainly common.
It's a strange feeling (in the cheating situation he discribes), because you're feeling hurt, betrayed, disgusted, angry, and yet aroused all at once!
Obviously, these emotions are not mutually exclusive!
Welcome to the world of complex human emotions!

Apart from the cheating scenario, I've asked myself this as well; why do I find it arousing to see the woman I love sucking off another guy, or getting f*cked by another guy?
I think at the base level, it's stimulating the same part of the brain as porn does; you're seeing something erotic, only not on a video or photograph, it's real life!
The other thing is, you love this person, so you get something from them getting pleasure.
For instance, if you take your wife or gf out to dinner, and she's enjoying the food she's eating, you don't get jealous because you didn't make the food, right?
Does it piss you off that she's complimenting some chef who made the suff?
No, you are glad she's getting pleasure, and it's OK that it's not all about you, you, you.
So swinging/sharing is an exaggerated form of that. I think the feelings are common, but it takes a lot to strip through all the layers of prohibition that our culture has put onto sex, for the purpose of protecting ourselves from the very real dangers of disease, etc.
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Postby anonymous_990 on Sun Oct 09, 2005 7:21 pm

I don't know as bad and messed up as they may sound it is a big turn-on seeing your girlfriend or wife with another man especially once you have been with them for a long-time because there is that trust.

Watching you girlfriend or wife being fcked by another male is very sexy and entertaining but it is also entertaining when she acts and dresses slutty around other men...

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Postby WHO on Tue Oct 11, 2005 8:04 pm

It is a dangerous activity to share one's wife or GF. But I do agree that it is a turn on. At least, it is for me. I can thus empathise.

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Postby mande on Sat Oct 15, 2005 1:41 am

It's even more of a turn on, to be watching, while you're F****** that guys wife/gf!!!!!
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Postby Louiza on Fri Oct 21, 2005 12:20 am

Sharing and group sex is the best thing I ever try in my life...

Me and my husband will never stop having this way of life just because we like it so much and we are having fun....

No one can make us feel bad for what we do....

So go on....sharing, orgies and swinging is not a crime

Btw Protoss, are you Greek????

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Postby littleittybittypritty1 on Fri Oct 21, 2005 7:55 am

Louiza wrote:Sharing and group sex is the best thing I ever try in my life...

Me and my husband will never stop having this way of life just because we like it so much and we are having fun....

No one can make us feel bad for what we do....

So go on....sharing, orgies and swinging is not a crime

Btw Protoss, are you Greek????


Somehow i doubt Protoss is a greek as the greek culture tends to be more accepting of homosexuality. It's really sad to see someone react that way when this post had nothing to do with homosexuality at all. I think he just needs to become more secure with his own sexuality. Sad really.

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Postby Buzzsaw on Fri Oct 21, 2005 8:21 pm

I have recently discovered my partner has been having an affair, which I have suspected for nearly two years

While I had these suspiscions I regularly fantasized about her with other men, usually two or more at the same time and regularly used this during masturbation (which was something I did more amd more as she became less and less interested in sex with me)

Now that I know the truth, and particularly the fact the the man she was having an affair with was an ex-colleague and friend, who I had regularly played sports with and hence had seen naked in the changing rooms, I can't bare the thought of them together and that the pain and loathing that the mental image of them having sex brings feels like someone reaching into my chest and ripping my heart out and not in the slightest bit erotic

So that's a big NO to sharing and watching from me

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Postby mande on Sat Oct 22, 2005 9:36 pm

Well, I understand the reaction, but I've been on the receiving end of both scenarios; sharing, and having been cheated on.
I can tell you now, they are not similar experiences!
It drove me insane when my GF's cheated on me too, but it's entirely different than when you willingly share, because it's the cheating aspect that is painful, not just the sex.
But certainly it's not for everyone. It is for me though!
The biggest problem with this though, is that you have to make it PERFECTLY CLEAR what the rules are.
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Postby cyber on Mon Oct 24, 2005 2:57 am

There's been some interesting comments about this subject, and as my brother said to me about swinging, don't mock it until you've tried it. He has recently got married again to someone who thinks like him, they started going to swingers parties and now they do their own and i've never seen him so happy.
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such as

Postby spirit-of-tao on Mon Oct 24, 2005 6:59 pm

rifle, such as ? :D
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