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lee scottson
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Joined: 14 Apr 2008
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 Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 4:38 pm Post subject: Very Very Troubled Relationship. |
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I am new to the forum and i am a gay man and i have a problem.
what do yo do when your boyfriend doesnt want to show any affection? I worship my bf but he does not feel the same way about me. When we have sex he just wants go get on top and get to work. No kissing, no touching, no caressing, nothing. It has been like this for a while. We have been dating for 3 years and he always wants it that way and i have no say in our sexual activities. When i try to bring it up to him we have a huge fight and i end up giving in. I dont want to give in anymore. A relationship goes two ways. It shouldnt just be what he wants and not what i want. Truth be told, his controlling ways are a turn off. When we are doing it and i look at him he tells me to look somewhere else because he doesnt want to see my face. I cant even kiss him. What should i do? |
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TonyRockyhara
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Sounds like you need a woman.  |
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leescottson
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| Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 7:08 pm Post subject: very very troubled relationship |
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| tony. what if i had said it was a woman what advice would you give me. |
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ZiaAries
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It sounds to me that you have a partner that takes you for granted. He sounds like a disrespectful selfish cold-heart guy. Maybe it's time for you to move on lee scottson. Has he always been like this? Is he controlling in other aspects of the relationship? Rethink this relationship if he is unwilling to address your needs.
As for a relationship that is straight/male-female.... disrespect, selfishness and a cold heart is certainly NOT unheard of with us either. I suppose my advice to you would be to give yourself the respect that you feel you are due. Don't settle for less than you think you are worth. He's not the end-all. Good luck to you. |
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TonyRockyhara
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| Posted: Tue Apr 15, 2008 2:06 pm Post subject: Re: very very troubled relationship |
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| leescottson wrote: |
| tony. what if i had said it was a woman what advice would you give me. |
If you were a woman, complaining about a man acting like a man, I would have given you the same advice. |
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noodles
FemaleFirst Grand Master (1000+ Posts)
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| Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 12:46 pm Post subject: Re: very very troubled relationship |
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| TonyRockyhara wrote: |
| leescottson wrote: |
| tony. what if i had said it was a woman what advice would you give me. |
If you were a woman, complaining about a man acting like a man, I would have given you the same advice. |
Why chip in then if you actually have FA to say |
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coolman
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I'm not gay, but was in a similar relationship with a girl in my 20s. She got "control" of the relationship. So has your boyfriend.
It is very difficult to take away his control, because he is used to it and expects you to play his bitch.
You have to move on and find someone who cares about your wants and needs. |
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| Posted: Fri Apr 18, 2008 1:35 pm Post subject: |
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| Is he caring and make you feel loved when you are not having sex? |
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