How soon is too soon?

InLove · Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 6:09 pm Post subject: How soon is too soon?

Hi I've recently broke up with my bf of 3 years he was my first serious bf and we were in love. I’ve started to like this new guy, but I still feel sad about my brake up with my ex basically I’m really confused about my feelings I really like this new guy but I’m not over ex. basically how soon do you think is to soon?

Thanks for any advice.

Cambridge · Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 7:03 pm Post subject:

In a bf/gf situation I'm not sure there is any waiting protocol. You’re asking a question a widow might ask, but not a gf. If it were a marriage breaking up, you might owe it some time if you were trying to work it out. But seems to me you’re good to go right now. Very Happy

MissCharlie · Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2008 10:16 pm Post subject:

How recent is your break up ? its good that you are starting to like some -one else, maybe just don't rush things. There was probably a reason you broke up with your ex, that reason still exists. Try and feel happy about the love you shared, not sad, but realise it's time to move on (cautiously) , you didn't say why you guy's split up, are you still hurting about that or was it your decision?

Cx

jinjin · FemaleFirst Guru Joined: 11 Oct 2006 Posts: 80968

Since you admit to being confused, it is probably too soon for a new serious relationship. If you have not taken the time to sort out the issues with the previous relationship, you may repeat the same mistakes with the current relationship. Now, if this is a casual in-between boyfriends relationship to help you feel better about yourself, then it can work out well if the man shares the same expectations.

InLove · Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 7:53 pm Post subject:

thanks for your replys

we have been broke up for 3 weeks, he left me and i don't really know why. I don't wont this new guy to be a casual fling as he is a old friend and like him to much as a friend to use him that way.

MissCharlie · Posted: Wed Apr 09, 2008 10:45 pm Post subject:

Its great that he is a friend, don't throw that away, give yourself some time to heal.

Best of luck

Cx

Cambridge · Posted: Thu Apr 10, 2008 4:16 am Post subject:

Yer, go hesitantly, carefully, into the snow. Watch, listen and learn…and then ask. You can do that. If he’s a friend, measure at each footstep what he is turning into now.

I turned down a woman who wanted to be a lover, because it would ruin a perfect professional relationship. Today we have the same professional relationship and we are great friends without ever having had sex. It goes both ways.

InLove · Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:59 pm Post subject:

Thanks for all your advice

Me and him are now going out, but i am going to take it slow between us even though i am now am over ex.

FFFCaroline · Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 8:08 pm Post subject:

Honey, when you are writing what you just wrote it is too soon....Give your heart a chance as it is still hurting...You will know when everything is right....Much love to you......Caroline

Who? · Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: