Is my wife bisexual?

[Cityroc]

Heres the deal. My wife has told me in the past that she isn't into women. However, a few weeks ago I let her go out with her friends and I found out that at the dance club, the girls were all over each other(wife included). I found it cool and all and didn't say anything. As of late, we have been going out to clubs, and my wife has made out with other girls in my presence now on several occassions. She has become rather cool about it likes its no big deal anymore. Though this has only happened when she drinks.
My question is this. Is my wife bisexual? She tells me that she isn't, but I don't believe her. She really gets turned on by women when she drinking. Which leads me to believe that she thinks about women alot. Oh, and may I mentioned that she told me that her fantasy is to have sex with 2 men at the same time!! Wow...... I have always been The PLayer and thought that I knew it all. I am a loss for words. I love that fact that shes into women, but she doesn't let me get near any of her friends.
Can someone help with some advice??

[Susie from London]

Your wife is sexual. Pedants will say she is bisexual but what's in a name. If she likes it and you like it then don't worry - just enjoy.

[Guest]

My advice would be to start playing the field, it sounds like she is already. Also don't be so naive, next time you're at a club start making out with other girls in front of her and see what her reaction is. Get a straight answer from her if she can't give it to you dump her.

[horny17yearold]

Don't just dump her... Have another girl go over to your house when she thinks you wont be home. once shes there and they're into it then walk in on them. the worst that could happen is you F*** two girls...

[Blue-eyes]

I can not say for sure nor can I say that there is a definite answer. But in my opinion, there is little doubt. You will notice that these messages are filled with contributions to this subject by many, many women who are bi. or are bi-curious. You will notice that many people state that all women have some bi feelings and interest. maybe and maybe not. But certainly most have thought about it at one time or another. So back to your situation. She certainly has some strong bi feelings, and it is just a matter of how soon she will act on these feelings. I would suggest you encourage these and that you be there. You will be very happy you did.

[Guest]

You should dump her, what makes her think its ok to kiss another woman when she has a boyfriend? I mean if you wen t and kissed a girl out in a club how the hell would she like it? Sorry but in my book a kiss is a kiss which is cheating.

[guest78]

I know exactly how u feel, I'm in the exact same situation. I have no clue what to tell you, I'm still try'n to figure it out myself. There"s this girl i go to college with, thats been out with us on several occasions. Things started out kinda slow with them, just friendly kissing at first so I just wrote it off as that. But this last time we went out, it was a full blown make out session. Which made my wife nervous because she felt like she was cheating on me. But Dr. Phil saved the day, she loves that show, one day he was having a show about cheating or whatever. And he made on of the most brilliant statements that I've heard and totally agree with. It went something like this, "A good rule to follow is that its not considered cheating if it is something you would do in front of your partner and they are cool with it." I was totally cool with it. Also, we laid down some ground rules, like both of us would have to be present whenever anything like this is gonna happen. I also told her that I would support her decision either way she went with it. And I haven't pushed the issue or put any pressure on her. This seemed to work, because this weekend she set up a date with the three of us to go out. So far thats all that I have, if I come up with anything else I'll let you know.

[Guest]

Don't listen to those who say a kiss = "cheating". Talk to her about it and then suggest SHE invites another girl over to "go further". Odds are she'll agree, albeit she'll be nervous w/ anticipation/kink factor involved, but she seems to want your approval, or something close to it. Tell her its alright for her to feel this way and that you'll love her no matter what. Reassurences like this seem to be a staple for women even when we guys just go out and "get something done". Women seem to want acceptance. Give her that acceptance and you'll reap the rewards.

[boturki]

[pink stardust]

not sure if she is bi. i mean i don't think of myself as bi but i have on a few occasions kissed some of my female friends, although i was very drunk at the time, i also have dreams about sex with women sometimes but i would never consider taking things any further in reality.. Maybe as she says she isn't bi, she really isn't, for me it was the excitment of the unknown, almost the forbidden fruit if you see what i mean. I find women very attractive, i find the naked female body beautiful and i feel comfortable with it but i see a naked male and feel almost repulsed (sorry guys) however i don't look at myself as bi.
As for the kissing in front of you. well it depends on how you feel about it, if you are ok with it then let it go and enjoy the show but if in anyway it makes you feel jealous, unsecure etc then ask her not to do it.. It really wont do your relationship any good if it ends up becoming a problem..

[tom_voyeur]

I think my fiancee is bi-curious . . . we've had some conversations about it and I think she'd like to get it on with another woman at least once, to see what it's like. She'll kiss one of her girlfriends when she's drunk. I encourage this of course . . . adds a bit of spice and variety! I have to admit though, the idea of her with another woman is a huge turn-on for me, I wouldn't want to join in . . . just watch the two of them!