she wants to be mates only but acted so differently

[confused man]

hello all

I have been chatting to an older woman on the internet for quite some time (several months) and we get on really well. We exchanged pics and both admited that we fancied each other.

She is about 10 years older than me, (she is 46) and she admitted from day one that she was hellishly complicated. Anyway, a few weeks ago we decided to meet for the first time. We had a brilliant night out. Few drinks, good convo, and gentle flirting - she kept "invading" my space and looking at me and she'd go out of her way to brush against me. Also, a few times when we stood together I'd gently rub her leg and not once did she offer to move - it was all good flirting fun. I'm pretty sure that if you asked anyone who saw us that night they'd assume that we were an item.

The date lasted for about 5 hours and when we left we stood outside a while just chatting (I continued touching her gently which she didn't object to) and then she kissed my lips goodnight, hugged me, and she walked home (she lived very close by) and I drove home (I live miles away). I really had thought I'd cracked it and that it was an excellent night.

A few days later we chatted on the internet and she said that there was no chemistry between us and so it was friends only. I was really quite shocked at this. She then seemed to take too much pleasure in telling me coldly that I wasn't her type.

I admit I was a bit confussed by all this, and I left the internet for a few days to sulk. However, after a while I managed to see some kind of logic that maybe it was all for the best. The next time I saw her _ I agreed that us as lovers would never really work, and I agreed that we should be mates only.

A day after this she pm'd me been overly chatty and nice. She then told me she was catching the train to my nearest city on business and would love to meet me for a coffee. I said no thanks and at that she seemed a bit upset, and she has not been _ since.

I really am very confused by all this. I must admit that if I had dated someone I didn't fancy then there's no-way I'd want to meet them again, or really chat to again as it just gets all to messy yet this girl wishes to carry on seeing me which I do find a little odd.

Any ideas what is going on in her "hellishly confused" mind? Does she really just want to be mates only, or is this some kind of tease, game, or what?

[Verve]

First of all, you f*cked up on the first meeting. You should have tried to f*ck her… I’m serious… Plus you let her walk home alone… You didn’t even offer a late night walk or to walk/drive her home. She wants to possibly just f*ck you but she thinks you might not be interested since you didn’t make a final attempt to get in her panties at the end of night. That’s how some women’s mind works… backwards. Now she enjoys your company on_line and would like you as well in real life. But as you can see when a handle a woman like sh*t they want you more. Trust me it’s true…why…um, I don’t know. So I say you turning her down was a good thing. Now the same thing that she did to you as far as chatting you up like she didn’t insult you, you do it right back to her. Be as chatty as she was… It’s a nasty game to play… so it’s up to you if you want to participate.