fatand30 wrote:Thank you for the cuddles and advice.
I must sound such a loser and I know there are loads of other people going through the same thing, but I feel like the loneliest person in the world.
I think the worst thing to do when you're feeling sad and lonely after a break-up is to... stay inside at home on your own. All you will do is think about him and what might have been.
You should be getting out as much as possible even if it's just for a walk down town. Be around friends and stay with friends if you can, or maybe invite them around to your place for a meal and to stay over.
Set yourself a goal each day. Maybe to do something that you had put-off doing or hadn't the time to do before. Be active and outgoing even if (especially if) all you feel like doing is staying in and thinking about what happened.
Your mind needs distractions otherwise it will just dwell on the past which is not what you need right now.
Time can be a friend and a foe. Yes, as people have been telling you, in time things will get better. However without distractions, interacting with other people and making yourself busy, that time will feel painful, drag and move very slowly indeed.
Whatever happened in your last relationship you are now a stronger and wiser person for it. Think positive. Think of all the other wonderful things that make up your life now, even if it's just seeing the Sun come out in the morning or a lovely clear blue sky.
Most importantly take charge of your life, get out there and see what it has to offer you. You can be happy again, but sometimes you have to go out there and grab it rather than waiting for it to come to you.
Good luck now!
