Babysitter giving bath

rk0237 · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 25 Oct 2007 Posts: 2

When I was 14, I broke both my arms and needed help going to the bathroom and bathing. Because my mom worked evenings, the babysitter, who was 16 needed to help me. She was very thorough giving me a bath and I didn't mind so much but I was very embarrassed to have her help me go to the toilet.

Occasionally, she had a girlfriend over who was only 14 and she would let her watch her bathe me. I didn't like this but my mom said it was OK. I would get erect and both girls enjoyed washing and drying my penis.

This lasted for about 2 months until I was able to take care of myself. I'm no worse off for wear but I remember it like it was yesterday.

1muaaaaaa · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 06 Apr 2008 Posts: 2

I remember when I was 12 or 13, (I didn't start puberty till 16), my 15 year old sister would give me baths regularly. I never felt selfconscious about taking my clothes off with her there, or her washing me - I often didn't want to put PJ's on after the bath, and ran about nude. PJ's always felt sticky on my damp skin.
Sometimes her girlfriend would be over and she'd be in there too; just talking and talking as I got bathed. That made me a little nervous, and I recall that I did get erections sometimes - I was a normal boy after all.. I'd try to cover it with my hands, which worked I think, till she washed down there or I had to get out of the tub to get dried. They never made fun of me or made me feel that I was being bad. My sister called it, "A little stiffy", and said it was perfectly normal and all boys get them and not to worry about it at all - she'd give me a little tickle to make me laugh, then go on back to talking to her girlfriend. It was not an issue of concern for her or her friend, so it wasn't for me. That's all there was to it. I giggled and forgot it. If anything, my memories and feelings about bath times are neutral to pleasant.
Every family is different, and every kid is different. I was very comfortable with it. I think I liked the attention and my sister apparently didn't mind, and we always got along well. That's why it went on till 13 or so. It wasn't an issue in my growing up. I havn't even thought of it until I came across this forum.
If you son is showing some resistance, by telling you, "No bath with the babysitter!" Listen to him. Tell him that bathing is now his responsibility. You mentioned that he's not circumsized, put him in the bath one more time yourself and teach him one more time how to wash his penis properly, explain why, and that's the end of it. If he continues to mention that it's itchy, it may be the soap, or take him to visit the doctor. If he's not washing properly, the doctor will set him straight. If you notice that he's not as clean as you'd like, mention it to him and ask that he do a better job tonight. That's it.

1muaaaaaa · Hello. I am New! Talk to Me Joined: 06 Apr 2008 Posts: 2

Refreshing to hear someone respond so honestly. Asking the boy to wash it himself the way his mom does was perfect. It respected him, and taught you.

*~Gemma~* · Guest

Wow - your Mum still bathed you until you were 13! I bathed myself from around 6, I would've been well embarrassed if someone else was bathing me older than that. I think even with your Aspergers it's a bit wierd having your Mum bath you. I take it she washed your bottom while bathing you too?

Mac · Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2008 3:16 pm Post subject:

Our society places too many stereotypes and biases on individual swxuality. We go to extremes to separate and differentiate the sexes for no real purpose. No other species does this. Here is an interesting article which I found elsewhere on the net. I think that the ideas in it have a lot of merit.

Gender Equality

IN THE BEGINNING: The human male and female were created equal (like the other creatures) with no sexual inhibitions or hidden secrets. We were at peace and in harmony with God, the universe and each other. Gender issues, as we know them today, did not exist. Then, we created many artificial differences that resulted in unnatural problems, secrecy and gender tensions.

CLOTHING: We first created clothing, not to protect us from the elements but to hide our physical differences from each other. This resulted in stereotyped female and male clothing to further disguise and promote our differences. It created unnatural secrecy, curiosity and tensions between female and male. What a giant step backward!

Today, the clothing trend is starting to reverse. It is now acceptable for the female to wear all traditional male styled clothing. However, there is still a real bias against the male wearing any traditional female styled clothing (skirts, dresses, blouses, underwear, lacy and frilly items).

RESTROOMS: Next, we created an unnatural secrecy around basic bodily functions by establishing separate restrooms for female and male users and implementing different levels of secrecy for both. The female was always provided private stalls with 6-foot walls and doors. However, the male was given open urinals and inadequate stalls. Male stalls were either non-existent or had only 4-foot walls (sometimes without doors). This secrecy only promoted unnatural curiosity and perversion.

Today, due to long lines, females frequently use male restrooms. However, the male is still prohibited from using the female restroom unless he can pass as a female. The family restroom addresses some aspects of this bias by permitting opposite gender assistance for children, elderly and handicapped. However, true unisex use is prohibited (even for married adults).

BATH, DRESSING, & SPORTS: When the concept of a bath was established, we again created separate facilities for the female and male. Heaven forbid they should see each other without clothes. We provided privacy curtains for the female, but not the male, in dressing and shower areas. Why the difference? We even added basic health and fitness as secret and forbidden differences by creating separate exercise and recreational facilities. Why so much secrecy?

OTHER GENDER BIAS: We continued these exclusions and differences to all areas of human life: employment, sports, recreation, family life, and etcetera. Fortunately, some of these biases are now being eliminated. However, the rate of change is much too slow.

CONCLUSIONS: We must establish true gender equality for everyone. Making all clothing acceptable for both sexes will abolish one stereotype. True unisex restrooms with adequate stalls for privacy will eliminate another bias and provide additional security for both female and male users. Bath and dressing facilities must be designed for unisex usage and individual privacy. Sports, health and recreation facilities must offer shared usage for both female and male users. Gender biases must also be eliminated from employment and all other social areas of our life.

Julie_H · Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:25 pm Post subject:

Julie_H · Posted: Wed Apr 23, 2008 8:28 pm Post subject:

Come on. At that age he should be doing it himself. Unless of course he wants the babysitter to help him. He might not be so stupid!!!

David Ba. · Guest

Guest · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 7:28 am Post subject:

When I was 12, I had a 15 yo babysitter give me a bath. I had started puberty but when she said "time for your bath!" I just went with the flow because she was really fine and it was kinda exciting to think what might happen. When she saw me get naked and that my dick was semi erect, she was very quiet and washed me as I stood up in the tub. She saved my private parts for last but by the time she got to them, my penis was completely stiff and my normal 5 inches in length. I asked if she was going to wash under the skin for me, and she said something about washing me like a mother cat. Her voice sounded funny. Let's just say she turned out to be my favorite sitter. Very Happy

Mac · Posted: Wed Apr 30, 2008 4:51 pm Post subject:

Why do we have such a hang-up over our sexual differences? Separation and secrecy (not openess and acceptance) lead to perversion.

~Bellagurl~ · Guest

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Kalith · Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 3:58 am Post subject:

OldTimer · Guest

My mother stopped giving me baths when I was about 10. A little later my parents became concerned that I wasn't washing under my foreskin and so for a while my dad and I had baths together - he only washed himself and I learnt by example. I loved sharing the bath with dad and felt no embarrassment at all.

A year on, when I was bathing alone again and still before I reached puberty, I was given a bath by a middle-aged nurse when my mother was ill. This time I was embarrassed, mainly because she was a stranger. I was also annoyed because I reckoned I was perfectly capable by then and relieved when she did not try to clean my genitals (and yes, I had been washing properly!). It would not have bothered me at that age or a bit older if a young regular babysitter had just watched whilst I had my bath - in fact I would have enjoyed the company!

Bathtime is a wonderful opportunity to talk and relax (in Japan whole families bathe together) and I think it is terribly sad when people say that they have stopped such intimacy long before puberty. However, I'm in my 60's, so perhaps parental attitudes are different now.

~Bellagurl~ · Guest