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jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.

jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the sam
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lillycat wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the sam
e.my name is lynda and i am going through the very same as you and i am finding it harder every day if i dont get them back i want to die

Ivan Diederhoff wrote:best thing you can do is get a top notch lawyer, and fight with everything in your being for them. That goes for men and women.
. wrote:Ivan Diederhoff wrote:best thing you can do is get a top notch lawyer, and fight with everything in your being for them. That goes for men and women.
That's the WORST thing you can do. The only people who benefit from that approach are lawyers with their overinflated charges.
Unless there are exceptional circumstances (such as child abuse), custody should always be granted jointly to both parents and children should live with each parent half the time.

. wrote:Ivan Diederhoff wrote:best thing you can do is get a top notch lawyer, and fight with everything in your being for them. That goes for men and women.
That's the WORST thing you can do. The only people who benefit from that approach are lawyers with their overinflated charges.
Unless there are exceptional circumstances (such as child abuse), custody should always be granted jointly to both parents and children should live with each parent half the time.
jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
. wrote:The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
That is an extremely insensitive remark. How could you say something like that to someone who is in real pain? Besides, the opposite applies as well, she is just as entitled to her children as he is, and for him to try to take away yer right to be a mother is just as wrong as if she tries to take away hs right to be a father. I went through thie with my ex, and I lost. I cry every single day because I am not allowed to be a mother to my children anymore.

The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
That is an extremely insensitive remark. How could you say something like that to someone who is in real pain? Besides, the opposite applies as well, she is just as entitled to her children as he is, and for him to try to take away yer right to be a mother is just as wrong as if she tries to take away hs right to be a father. I went through thie with my ex, and I lost. I cry every single day because I am not allowed to be a mother to my children anymore.
There are plenty more men crying.
Their ex-partners don't care, the courts don't care, and society doesn't care.
So excuse me for being the "insensitive" one. When MEN have the rights they should, then I'll accept your point.
. wrote:The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
That is an extremely insensitive remark. How could you say something like that to someone who is in real pain? Besides, the opposite applies as well, she is just as entitled to her children as he is, and for him to try to take away yer right to be a mother is just as wrong as if she tries to take away hs right to be a father. I went through thie with my ex, and I lost. I cry every single day because I am not allowed to be a mother to my children anymore.
There are plenty more men crying.
Their ex-partners don't care, the courts don't care, and society doesn't care.
So excuse me for being the "insensitive" one. When MEN have the rights they should, then I'll accept your point.
It's not that women don't care. They do, but you have to understand some cases involve men who are abusive and controlling. It's easy to say split the time between two parents, but you have to consider the child's routine and it's also about finances aswell, if one parent is in an opposite part of the country.

The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
That is an extremely insensitive remark. How could you say something like that to someone who is in real pain? Besides, the opposite applies as well, she is just as entitled to her children as he is, and for him to try to take away yer right to be a mother is just as wrong as if she tries to take away hs right to be a father. I went through thie with my ex, and I lost. I cry every single day because I am not allowed to be a mother to my children anymore.
There are plenty more men crying.
Their ex-partners don't care, the courts don't care, and society doesn't care.
So excuse me for being the "insensitive" one. When MEN have the rights they should, then I'll accept your point.
It's not that women don't care. They do, but you have to understand some cases involve men who are abusive and controlling. It's easy to say split the time between two parents, but you have to consider the child's routine and it's also about finances aswell, if one parent is in an opposite part of the country.
Abuse is not common.
What about abusive women huh?
. wrote:The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:. wrote:The Colonel wrote:jibba wrote:help! my ex husband had my children for a visit and never brought them back now he is fighting me in court for custody this is so stressful, would love to talk to someone who is or has gone through the same.
He is entitled to his children as much as you are.
Some women think they have the automatic right to everything. Sorry, but you don't.
That is an extremely insensitive remark. How could you say something like that to someone who is in real pain? Besides, the opposite applies as well, she is just as entitled to her children as he is, and for him to try to take away yer right to be a mother is just as wrong as if she tries to take away hs right to be a father. I went through thie with my ex, and I lost. I cry every single day because I am not allowed to be a mother to my children anymore.
There are plenty more men crying.
Their ex-partners don't care, the courts don't care, and society doesn't care.
So excuse me for being the "insensitive" one. When MEN have the rights they should, then I'll accept your point.
It's not that women don't care. They do, but you have to understand some cases involve men who are abusive and controlling. It's easy to say split the time between two parents, but you have to consider the child's routine and it's also about finances aswell, if one parent is in an opposite part of the country.
Abuse is not common.
What about abusive women huh?
Domestic violence is a common factor, but mothers are by nature, carers and taking a child away from their mother isn't rational.

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