Wetting

[Anthea]

I was interested to read the letter about a week ago about air hostesses wetting themselves. I was a stewardess for 12 years and remember two emergency landings. We were all very nervous but I do not recall any of us wetting our knickers, then or any other time. Since then I have had a job which involves travelling much of the time by car. From time ti time I have been stuck in traffic jams, particularly on motorways. On two such occasions I was desperate to wee and ended up wetting myself. I imagine that is not too uncommon a happening, given the number of long hold-ups, especially on motorways.

[UKGent]

It's when you describe situations like that, that you get to thinking, 'hmmm never looked at it in that way'. I suppose with our equipment, if we got caught like that needing a pee, it's alot more easy for us guys to go than you ladies. not very ladylike rushing out the car, dropping trousers and knickers at side of road and relieving yourself, where as for us men, people would just look at us and say 'eeww how gross, typical man'

[adele]

anthea fear wetting is very real read what happened to my friend and i nearly drowned peed in our bikini with fright

[Cool Debs]

Iknow what you mean about motorways Anthea. I've been caught out like that. Now, I sometimes wear a disposable adult diaper if i'm doing a long journey, especially if its at rush hour on a motorway like the m25. Its got me out of trouble a couple of times.

[Gilly2]

That certainly rings a bell with me Anthea. I can empathise with you. It happened to me in a horrendous motorway tail-back and I ended up sitting in a puddle of my own making. A friend told me that it happened to her and her mother. If a woman has the misfortune to find herself in a situation where she is absolutely desperate to wee, with no means of relief and she has struggled her best to hold on she should not feel ashamed if she can't help wetting her knickers. It happens. That's life!

[Ady6970]

I think getting stuck in a traffic jam, particularly on a long journey, and wetting oneself is one of those things which can happen to people more often than is readily acknowledged. Anthea is very brave to admit she's done it - I suspect most people who have would never dream of admitting it. It's one of those things that can happen to anyone who is unprepared for it. However there are some simple precuations which people can take to lessen the likelihood of it happening. For a start I'd advise limiting your fluid intake before a long journey and ALWAYS going to the toilet (preferably in both senses of word) before setting out. It's just as important for adults to take these simple precuations as it is for children. Also, there's something to be said for taking a blanket with you in the car (for the purposes of discretion) and a suitable re-sealable container just in case an emergency does arise. A packet of moist wipes with which to freshen up and clean the hands is also a good thing.

[Maggie G]

Just been checking the recent posts and found this. Thank you Anthea and all others who wrote. No, we would not normally have talked about it and shame is part of the reason even if it ought not to be. It happened to me, not in a traffic jam but walking home, utterly desperate and too far to go. Fortunately, though people were around they were not close enough to see and I was wearing a skirt. But at 36 years old I was terribly ashamed and as soon as I reached home burst into tears. My husband was very sympathetic and caring, which helped a lot.

[Guest]

It is not commonly known, but there is a word of warning that should go with urination and motorways.

Once on a long road trip I was forced to use an empty "big mouth" soda bottle to relieve myself. I began the process and filled the bottle nearly to the top, however to my dawning horror I became aware that no air had escaped during the filling. The result was catastrophic and involved scrubbing my headliner over the weekend.

[PatriciaL]

I can sympathize with those writing about accidental wettings, since I've been having them since I was a school girl. I guess i've always had a weak bladder, and for reasons I don't know, have often put off using the loo until the last minutes, and every so often, the last minute comes too soon.

I've wet my pants and knickers in the car, walking home, at work, at school and indeed once on an airplane during choppy flying when the seat belt sign was on. I pleaded to get up, and when I finally did, in spite of being told to sit down, I began to wet my knickers and soaked mylegs and shoes while walking/running up the aisle. It was really embarrassing since lots of people saw me doing it. I can only imagine what it would have been like if I was wearing pants; luckly I wasn't.

This runs in my family. One of my sisters has had simiilar experineces all her life, and my son often wet his pants right until he was 17 or so, no often, but enough.

[Ady6970]

Maggie G and PatriciaL. Thanks for your comments which must have taken some courage to write. I will say, however, that there's absolutely nothing to be ashamed of if you have an accident. Accidents happen and they're a prefectly normal occurence. My guess is that most adults have wet themselves once or twice but the only accidents you hear about are from the small minority who actually admit they've had them.

[UKGent]

One point that PatricaL mentioned i'd like to ask about, why is it that women when they need to go, ill always wait till the last min rather than going when they need to, i mean as such in find a toilet/loo/bathroom. My sisters do, some of my female friends do it, my ex gf did it to. I can appreciate if your in a sistuation and your unable to get to a washrroom facility in time but my point it, even when there are facilities close by, women will tend to wait till the last min rather than going when they feel they should. Could this be an aspect of why they tend to wet more?

Oh and from a man's point of view, i can cartainly appreciate the difficulties you women have to go thorugh. Pardon the expresion but us men can just simply take it out and go, where as for you women, it's not so easy. I know alot of men laugh when they hear stories like these and i'm sure that is why alot of women dont mention about weeting, but those men are just the insensitive ones who dont really understand.

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[Fabiana]

I cannot believe what I'm reading. You people seriously prefer sitting in a puddle of your own urine over pulling over in a jam and risking the 'embarassment' of peeing by the side of th
e road? Remind me never to buy a second hand car from any of you lot! Seriously, I find it troubling that you would rather wet yourselves than 'expose' yourselves. It's not like you're laying in the street with your legs in the air women, you're just squatting down. I've done it. And I can say with certainty that the thought of just wetting myself in the car did not enter my mind as an option in the slightest! Not to mention the one person here who said they wear an adult diaper 'just in case'. What is wrong with you????? If it's a medical condition fair enough, but what kind of person leaves the house wearing a diaper in case of emergencies?
I also think that there's a significant number of people who enjoy talking about it, and that's just something else again. Have I stumbled upon such a forum? Do enlighten me!
I don't know if I should be laughing or feeling horrified and I sincerely wonder if anyone will have the balls (or ovaries) to agree with me.

[UKGent]

It's people like you Fabiana with those type of views that make something that is a natural occurance in life a taboo and outcast subject and when those liberal people living amungst us talk about you have a closed view that they must enjoy it because ehy otherwise talk about.

Stop being so closed minded. Just because people have the guts to talk about something that is personal and embarassing, doesnt give you the right to ridicule them.

And for your information, strictly under the road traffic act (for those who are in the UK), stoping on the hard shoulder of a motorway to answer the call of nature is not classed as an emergency and improper use of a motorway hard shoulder can lead to a fine and points on your licence. Secondly, if you stopped (basically anywhere, even on a country road) and you needed to go, if you was seen and that person took offense, you could get charge with public indecency. So it's not so easy as you think. If you live in the UK, what I have just said is fact and can be found in Law documents.

[Fabiana]

Let me enlighten you on a few points then....

a) I would rather lose points on my licence, and or be arrested rather than pee in my knickers and own car (or anyone else's car for that matter)

b) 'A natural occurrence'? Yes, to urinate is indeed natural, can you tell me though how come I've never felt the need to wet myself if this is so natural? Perhaps what you are suggesting is that everyone here is normal, and that I am the odd one out? Pray tell.

c)If you find my suggestion that some people actually get a thrill out of talking about wetting themselves so offensive and misguided, then perhaps you could tell me what you, as a man (UKGent, I assume that stands for gentleman) is doing on a women's forum, discussing the urinating habits of traffic jam bound ladies?

d) ANYONE who could suggest that leaving the house wearing a diaper/nappy in case of emergency is 'normal' is in fact, to coin a non medical term ...a few sandwiches short of a picnic. You cannot tell me that most people have had that thought enter their minds on any given day of the year, traffic jam or no traffic jam. I certainly sail merrily past the 'tena lady' aisle in the supermarket without giving it a second thought.

e)I don't think it's so narrow minded to suggest getting out and peeing or perhaps simply a little more forward planning (not involving diapers/nappies). It's narrow minded perhaps to think that a bare cheek could cause such outrage amongst other motorists.

With that, I rest my case, and I thank you for your kind attention.