Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 9:07 pm Post subject: Babysitter giving bath
I have recently taken a 3rd shift job that requires me to put my son in the care of a babysitter. My 12 year old son immediately said that he didn't want the babysitter to give him a bath. I had been giving him his bath about two weeks earlier, but he wanted to take his own bath. After three or so days I noticed that he wasn't washing very well, so I threatened grounding him and taking away his t.v. if he didn't let the babysitter give him a bath. The babysitter I have is 15 years old, and is a very responsible young lady. There is also a 14 year old girl down the street, and a 17 year old two blocks away.
What do you think I should do, and which would be the best babysitter? What age range do you consider best for his modesty, he is 12.
I might suspect a troll also, touchable, if it were not for the fact that my son didn't start bathing himself till he was about 11. We have to remember that boys don't mature as quickly mentally, or physically as girls do. CarolinaMom, you may want to think about letting him bathe himself, and you can just check in on him ever so often. If nothing else works, and the babysitter does have to give him a bath, don't pick the 14 year old girl. Being a woman, I know that a 14 year old school girl would love nothing more than to be able to tell all the other girls all the embarrassing details of your son's anatomy. *THEY WILL MAKE HIS LIFE A LIVING HELL*, especially since he would be entering Junior High soon. My advice is to choose the 15 or 17 year old babysitters, they would probably be in High School, and would be less intrested in telling everyone about his shortcomings.
This is just my opinion, others may think differently, but this is what I think is best.
Joined: 08 May 2005 Posts: 833 Location: Lancashire
Posted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 5:36 am Post subject:
I suspect at 12 he will have reached puberty and will have problems with a 15 year old girl seeing him in the nude.
My son was 11 when he reached puberty and he did not want me to see him naked.
To make my statement clear just so nobody gets the wrong idea, I want to protect my sons modesty as much as posible. My problem is that he doesn't wash himself very well, and can't figure a way to solve this problem. He has to have a babysitter, but he doesn't want to be seen in that state of undress to get his bath. I used to bathe him about two weeks ago, but now I have to work 3rd. I don't believe he has started puberty yet. The 15 year old babysitter is the best deal for me, she lives closer to the house and she charges a lower rate. She's very responsible, and I'm sure that she will keep anything she sees confidential and will not tell her friends. Which babysitter do you think is best for protection of my son's modesty?
Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 491 Location: south west uk
Posted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 9:32 am Post subject:
Best protection for modesty, is wearing swimming trunks or shorts in the bath.... It'll make him feel more comfortable!
I used to wear a swimsuit when I started puberty(9 years old), because I lived with my biological dad.
Hope this helps
Last edited by sashae83 on Wed Jun 07, 2006 10:35 pm; edited 1 time in total
Swim trunks are a good idea, but one of my son's biggest problems is that he is uncircumcised and for about one week he has been complaining about it itching. I have tried training him how to wash himself properly, but I'm not sure he has grasped the idea. I know that he doesn't want to be given a bath by the babysitter, but I think it's best for his own good.
The reason he does not want the babysitter to give him a bath is because he will almost certainly get an erection. His hormones will be raging at his age and he will be very embarrassed. Sorry to be so blunt.
I've been a babysitter for three years, and in my experiance boys will be embarrassed by being bathed. Not all boys can bathe themselves at age 10, 11, or even 12. At age 16, I have babysat for over 60+ kids, most of which were boys in the age range of 2- 12. Most of my clients want me to give them baths. The oldest I have bathed is a 12 year old when I was 14, he was also a little resistant to me at first. The thing to remember is that boys will be embarrassed at first, but once they know you have seen them, they are less embarrassed by being bathed.
To the last response, most boys I bathed at that age don't have erections. Boys at that age are quite undeveloped, and don't have much to show in that area. They usually are more embarrassed about being seen in a state of undress.
I know when i was 12, puberty had definitely started. I was extremely curous about girls and definitely had errections and started mastur bating to some extent by then.
Of course it varies from boy to boy but don't think a 12 year old boy does not have sexual feelings........on the contrary.........curiousity and sexual feeling is very common at that age........even younger.
To guest paltus, I guess that you have never taken care of children. They are just like you and me, and they require bathing. Porn is in the dirty mind of that beholder, not in the people who have to care for the child. As for touchable, you prove a good point that boys at that age sometimes do have those feelings. You have to remember that they haven't had the 20+ years experiance to make them just sexual in nature. None of the boys I have cared for have ever done anything that is inappropriate, and I don't see any problem with caring for a child who can't wash fully.
I bet the reason your son doesn't want to be given a bath by a babysitter is because he knows his weeny will shrink up. The 14 year old babysitter would tell her friends about his "oh so little penis." Your son just doesn't want girls near his age to know that when he is cold, his penis hides inside him, and he looks like a girl.
Joined: 16 Apr 2006 Posts: 491 Location: south west uk
Posted: Sun Jun 04, 2006 6:34 am Post subject:
Okay,
Call me stupid or knock me down.
An 11 year old should be able to wash himself...
but in regards to washing his 'bits' then the babysitter should be otherside of the closed door.
I like my privacy and so does my partner, I wash his back....he washes mine. But when it comes to relaxing, we don't go in!
Personally, she doesn't have to be in the room with him.
She can just be outside the bathroom, with the door closed but UNLOCKED
In regards to "it" itching, you might can to see a doctor. They tend to be able to sort that type of problem out more quickily
I think all the sitters I had were 10, 20, 30 years older than me, except for two. The last time I got babysat I was 11 and she was around 15 or 16. And the other one I'll tell about. Most 12 year old boys still need a sitter, but they shuld not be bathed. It's not always a modesty issue and its OK if the sitter checks on him or sits there, but at 12 he should be able to wash his whole body all by himself. When the babysitter arrived I usually got a bath first thing and spent the rest of the evening in my pajamas. Sometimes I resisted and maybe I acted up a little but that was because I didn't like baths in general. I never minded actually getting bathed. With most sitters it was a good time for talking, or telling jokes or songs. Getting bathed wasn't embarassing. In the last year, when I was 10 and 11, sometimes I felt a litte shy about undressing, like a slight pang of modesty. But at other times I could strip without a shred of modesty. It was a variable thing. At that time, my usual babysitter started bringing her daughter to "help" and I guess give her some experience. She seemed big to me, but she was probably only 12 or 13. So I was only 2 years younger but she seemed grown up enough I wasn't embarassed, even when she helped bathe me. She told me about two other boys I knew that she bathed, so that made it seem acceptable too. The only thing that embarassed me was when my little sister was in the bathroom when I was getting a bath. She was 3 years younger and normally I didn't mind her seeing me in my birthday suit. I guess being surrounded by 3 females under those circumstances was a bit much for a ten year old boy! Also, they seemed to encourage her to watch. I remember the babysitter telling the girls that boys need lots of attention at bath time, and how we can't be trusted to get ourselves clean without help. This poll suggests that babysitters tell each other about what they see. I always wondered about this. I'd like to hear from girls who babysit about this. Do you think the babysitter's daughter who gave me baths and saw me naked talked to her friends about it?
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