Cancer woman and how to win her back

[Tas]

Ok I'm not focusing on zodiac signs for that, I just believe in the characteristics (rising,ascending etc). The question is how a cancer will act on a relationship crisis (meaning one step before break up) ? Aqua here and had been really weird with her although she has been the best. Now in distance ie not communication but her stuff is in my place.

As far as I know cancer are quite sentimental and sensitive in every reaction. So I guess not so easy to ruin a relationship for sthg new if she loves someone. On the other side they're quite strong and a bit selfish so an alert for me. What I'm trying to do is gradually impove comm using sentiment and actions to show how much I want us back. This comm started again mainly from an email of her recently to ask for her things back. But she didn't insist ie send her address etc, after I showed I wanna start comm again. Just a shallow reply that 'she's affraid we can only be friends' and some other words I can see through she doesn't really mean. So I guess I can still hope, just give it time.

Also cancers are famous as the marriage seekers ! But also as the best on that.

Any ideas preferably from other cancer females ? Really appreciated, thanks!!

[crabby@times]

Hi,
Cancer female here. W/ me, when I am hurt, I withdraw into my shell. Different people have different shells (remember "tears of a clown"), and it depends on how well you know your interest as to weather you recognize it or not. And they also have different ways of being coaxed out again. Chocolate works for me, but only the finest belgian, and to show up with a cholate bar would probably be worse than showing up empty handed.
So...is she just hurt because ya'll fought, and has withdrawn, or has she moved on?
I think the best thing you can do for any relationship of any sign is to listen LISTEN and remember. Be observant. Does their eyes light up when they see a poster for the opera? Don't take 'em to ProWrestling?(without prior consent, or at least with no expectations of gratitude). If they complain that the key keeps sticking on the door, don't SAY anything. Just arrange to get it fixed, and don't expect a big thankyou. Just keep an eye out for the way they thank you. And then thank them for thanking you, and then they thank you for being observant enough to tell and you thank them...every relationship is 60-40 on BOTH sides)
Sometimes, people smooth the way for us with many small things, and when we don't stop to acknowledge them, they stop; or go away, withdraw, etc. I am much more likely to provide favorite foods and footrubs than say "thankyou for driving me to work" every morning. And if ya start complaining about the drive, soon there will also be complains of the cost of take-out and 'oh my aching feet' will be met with 'go soak 'em'
Sorry to ramble. I don't get out much.