getting girlfrield to allow oral/fingering

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getting girlfrield to allow oral/fingering

Postby mikeinet on Sat Dec 25, 2004 8:12 am

hi all,

I need some advise.

My girlfriend doesn't really let me finger her... I get to play and "make her wet" but then she wants to go right into sex... she doesnt really like it when I finger her. Do I do it wrong?

Also, she won't let me really go down on her even though I really want to because she said one of her previous boyfriends said she smelled - she doesn't at all and I really want to allow her to let me. How can I?

thanks.

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Postby mikeinet on Sat Dec 25, 2004 6:25 pm

44 views... anybody? :/

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Postby Exodus on Sun Dec 26, 2004 2:52 am

You really can't make her do it if she doesn't want to. As for going down on her, thats something she is going to have to overcome. Tell her appealing things, get her in the mood. Its doubtful if she is really turned on, that she will just stop if you start kissing down her body eventually going downstairs. Just try to get into it and she may just let you if she see's you are enjoying it.
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Postby hai on Sun Dec 26, 2004 3:44 pm

Please ask her to lick or finger your pussy, then she will no the importance

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Postby johnny on Sun Dec 26, 2004 5:16 pm

Get her in the shower or tub and go down on her in there.

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Postby Kayla on Mon Dec 27, 2004 6:32 pm

Ok..for fingering, perhaps she doesn't like your technique. Ask her if she'd like to place her hand over yours and basically she'd finger herself, but using your hand...then you'd learn how she likes it and it would turn her on because she knows it's your fingers. For going down on her take a warm bath together and pay really good attention to her...wash every inch of her body and pamper her, and make sure to wash her pussy as well...then dry her off and carry her to your bed and lay her down...start out with just kissing her lips, then kiss and lick and nibble all the way down to her stomach, and then avoid her pussy and go to her inner thighs and down to her toes, then all the way back up. Try giving her a kiss on her pubic bone...if she doesn't stop you, you should be good to go...be very subtle and start slow with her pussy...don't just jump down ands start eating like a maniac, because you might scare her

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Postby Guest on Mon Dec 27, 2004 11:00 pm

I have the same problem with my wife

We have great Sex but when she doesn't allow me to go down on her.

Ladies can u describe the difference in the sensation in getting an orgasm from some one licking u vs orgasm from straight up penile penetration

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Postby Kayla on Mon Dec 27, 2004 11:37 pm

well when being licked, it usually is from a woman's clit and that usually makes an orgasm where you stiffen up and spasm uncontrollably for a while...penetration usually is G-spot and while you don't get that intense spasm thing, a woman will get a tiny bit of that and will sometimes squirt

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Postby kimmy on Wed Dec 29, 2004 11:16 pm

i dont think it sounds like technique at all sounds like she is insecure and worried about herself down below, adresse it to her, ask her why she doesnt let you.

also if she lets you down the rest your finger on the entrance of the vagina and make smal circles and kind of wiggle it around slowely for a while be patient, eventually she will get so wet she will be practically forcing your finger in there


also use logic when trying to go down her , straight after work or after long hot car journey or after a while of none showering she wont want you down there, where as after a shower there is a good chance she will

good luck

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Postby SAHMOM69 on Sun Jan 02, 2005 5:02 am

well all i know is that when my man talks dirty and slow & quiet in my ear...i practically shove his fingers in me. try talking dirty to her. :P


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