BOYFRIEND OF 5 YEARS BULTS

[ryamar1707]

Well where to start...lets see we started dating in the seventh grade..i know crazy but it is the truth. anyways so we dated all through high school and now it is my last semester of my senior year and he decides he needs out!! i was (what am i talking about i still am) overly devistated. I have found my self what seems to be falling apart and it is so hard for me because i have always been so strong and VERY independent. But so he says he cant take me bitching all the time but the ONLY thing that i bitch about is all of the drinking and smoking e does and hanging out with all the nasty a** people whoi do the same, It rives me CRAZY! and i dont want to be around anything like that. Many people have told me to break up with him long ago but it is just so hard we have been through EVERYTHING together and i just can seem to get over him. I find my self just basically throwing myself at toher people(not like that) but just want someone there and of course they bult too. I have never been by myself so i just cant deal!! How should i react?? what should i do?? help much!

[squid]

Hi,
Sorry you seem unhappy but even if you stayed together the most likely thing is one of you would die first.

I worked for a USA walking tour company that did tours in England and saw some women that decided the hell with it and upped and went to do their own thing. They bought boots and sensible clothing and went walking with strangers. The beauty of it is you can socialise or not but you are away from all the things that trigger the sadness in you. You will meet a range of pleasant intelligent people and see a foreign country.
I met 100s of Americans in the two years I did the job and every one of them was OK No stupid smokers or boozers. Try a country where you do not speak the language.

Smoking is an idiot's hobby and you should not hang out with them, they smell horrible.

Hanging out with a smoker will kill you just as fast as you smoking. That is not a theory, we have buried a few.

Please do something different. Be grateful that some one has broken your rut.

These things worked for me.
Good luck


Squid.