mostirreverent wrote:maybe there needs to be a poly thread.
Back to hookers then. I hate the fact that they exist, or rather that there is such a need. I wonder how polygamy would affect that aspect of a relationship. Polygamy in a modern country. I wonder if the sex disparity between m/f is real or societal.
P.s. people talk freely about their partner with anonymity. Most things though, I cant imagine not being able to talk to a partner about. All the blowjob questions, just ask the guy…
I think the disparity is due to many different factors.There's biology,there's individuality and then there's religion and social construct.I'm not that well informed on sexual
history but i get the impression that there has been a lot of suppression of female sexuality going on in the past.I think this has had an
influence on how many people view female sexuality,also how many
females view their sexuality.I also believe that this must have had an influence on how we raise our children,sending out different messages to males and females.
I believe humans have the habit of believing what others teach them without necessarily questioning,and then living,in thought and everyday life,what has been taught; in this case,a general gender specific identity
(For example: ''Woman have a much lower libido than men,or non at all'' or ''Men have no feelings'').
One general disparity,and where
i see a problem,is how differently sex is often viewed.Many men seem to have no problem seeing sex as a casualty,whereas many women seem to have a big problem with it.
This is partly due to our biological heritage but also our sexual-cultural and sexual-social history,we are shaped by the societies and cultures we live in.When i look at history,in terms of sexual content,man (male) almost always has the dominant part,if women are mentioned at all (ex.
Greek history).This must have had an effect on how men and women viewed,and view,sexuality,and that alone gives so many answers.
One thread that gave me many clues as to why some peoples relationships don't work on a sexual basis is that ''marriage contract'' (title escapes me) thread.The stubbornness and unwillingness to understand either partner was overwhelmimg.I think one of the main ingredients for a sexually fulfilling relationship is actually putting the partners wants and needs into consideration and not fully operating from an egotistical point of view.
So much to say on the whole subject of sexual disparages.
This i didn't understand: ''I wonder how polygamy would affect that aspect of a relationship. Polygamy in a modern country''.
Could you explain a bit further ?
Btw,polygamy is something different to polyamory.Polygamists distance themselves from the polyamory.Polygamists are married Christians,where one man has many wives.To polygamists polyamory people live in sin.Polyamory people are people who have more than one ''loves'' and the focus is on the emotional aspects of the relationships.Polyamory is not ''swinging''.
